sweet_peach115 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 About a month ago I came home to find my parents acting a bit sketchy. Later in the night I confronted my dad on it and he said my mother wasn't happy and that she was leaving. I asked where she was going and he said she just wants to be by herself. A month passes and she doesn't leave. Over the weekend I noticed my parents acting quite couply and figured maybe they had worked things out. My dad had asked me not to tell my mother that I knew anything was going on. Yesterday I came home to find all my mother's things gone. When my dad got home from work I questioned him and he told me she moved into her own apartment. She didn't even say goodbye. She did not mention a single thing to my sister or I. I don't even know where my own mother lives now. I am so pissed off at her. Was that totally disrespectful on her part to just dissappear????
Author sweet_peach115 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 I used to be fairly close with her. We would go shopping and hang out sometimes. I'm not sure if I even want to see her. I sent her 2 text message the other night and she didn't respond to either of them.
Lucky_One Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Call her. Don't text. You deserve an explanation, and you need to know where she is living and in what circumstances.
Obie Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 It seems extremely irresponsible for her to leave her children without saying a word but you won't know for sure until you contact her and demand an explination. I would advise you to remain openminded and try to see things from her perspective. Perhaps problems between your parents were bigger then they let on and she was left with no choice but to run off. Like I said, get her input as soon as you can (your sister should as well.)
Author sweet_peach115 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 She has spoken to my sister already. I know my dad did not threaten her with anything. In fact, for some time I have suspected that she was having an affair. I don't feel it should be up to me to hunt her down to talk to me. She left. If she has something she to say to me, she should be responsible for finding me.
Hero36 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Man, you don't need to take things so personally. Usuallly, it's not about you, it's about her.
Goldenspoon Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 It seems to me that your mom is having an affair and wants alone time with her lover. I hope she uses protection so she won't get STDs or give you a half sibling.
glimmer Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 This is awful, Peach. I'm so sorry she abandoned you like this. Yes what she did was wrong and disrespectful. She should reach out to YOU.
lovelylove Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 This is sad and almost unbelievable when a mother does this, usually it's men who run away. My current boyfriend has full custody of his son because his ex wife basically rejected him completely and even now that she has visits with him she is manipulative and not motherly- it's all about her. The rejection you must feel is horrible, I am so sorry. I was rejected by my own mother, and it took 40 years, yes 40, for us to be able to have a relationship. She now feels so guilty she is going overboard to make up for the things she didn't do... it doesn't heal the scars, and I am a mess of low-self esteem with abandonment issues, insecurity etc... Sweety you are lovable and deserve love and attention. It isn't your responsiblitly to fix your mom, or track her down, she's supposed to be the one caring for you, and I can see you know that. The thing for you to do is somehow maintain your self esteem and feel loved by your father, and anyone else in your family (I had a grandmother who saved my life by loving me). Hold on to your self-worth. Pray for the ability to forgive (this is the hardest one, but the one that will truely heal you if you can achieve it). I'm so sorry, every child deserves a loving mother, but many many don't have one. You are not alone. xoxoxoxox
Tayla Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Man, you don't need to take things so personally. Usuallly, it's not about you, it's about her. Hero,perhaps you can learn that this IS about the poster. Her mother Left, or did you forget that such actions have an AFFECT on the person? Especially when the one is an adult and is behaving less then responsibly with her duties as a parent. To Sweets, Relieved to hear she is okay although I am sure you are questioning her motive to depart. More will be revealed in due time. Just keep the faith .
Good Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 that is awful. I hope everything will turn out for the better.
ChristineB Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Have you ever thought of the possibility that maybe she knew it would be too painful for her to look into your eyes to say good bye? It happened to me and my little brother. I ran away from the house because I was so angry with my parents (it was back when I was only 14) and my brother was my best friend, I was afraid to look into his eyes and see the, "you're going to abandon me???" question in his eyes and afraid he would somehow stopping me from leaving.
dbtmarley Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I'm sorry to hear your situation. Having had a mother I absolutely adored makes it easy for me to judge yours, but truth is it can be a number of things that has caused this. Either way, I totally understand your anger. The two of you, minus text messages, need to get together and talk. How far did she move? Not trying to make excuses for her, but if she moved near by she may have minimized the situation within herself and thought it not important to say good bye because she was within reach.
sally4sara Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I know you are hurting right now and angry over the whole situation feeling like its happening to you rather than with you. Secrets are awful. I think you may have to corner your dad and demand to know what is going on, where she is, and how to get a hold of her. Does she work? Can you go to her job? At the very least make sure she is still alive. Then you can make a decision about things with knowledge rather than being angry over who knows WTF is going on. I only say to find out rather than sitting on anger and waiting for her to contact you because one of my friend's had something similar happen. Her parent had cancer and left hoping he would pull through it without his kids having to deal with seeing him sick. He moved in with a relative and no one told them why until after.
ver13 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 If you want to know where your mom went and why start asking her friends, extended family etc... One of them may know where she is as for your Dad he knows that she walked out but he may not truly know where or with whom( Worst case). Look something is going on in their relationship that they both have been keeping to themselves thats for sure and it may be the best tactic to find out what has happened is to corner your dad and asks him WTF is going on. Don't let him weasel out of the conversation no matter how hard he tries to. Your parents have been together for a few so he has to know something.
summerdowling87 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm sorry your going through this maybe so day she'll explain what's going on
Eve Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 I would be pissed at the both of them. Surely Dad knows at least why she has gone? I go with the idea of calling her up. Take care, Eve x
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