VanHalen Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Ok, so this is my story... Met a girl in my town and started dating her. We went out for 3 months and then she moved back to her home city. We agreed that we didn't want to get involved in a LDR, but that we should stay in touch as friends. After she went back I told her that I had feelings for her, she said the same thing to me but that she wasn't ready for a LDR. She keeps emailing and calling me (to talk just as friends) but I kind of ignore her because it's just too hard for me to talk to her and not being able to tell her how much she means to me. I know that staying in touch is the only way that she might reconsider her decision, but it's just too hard for me. I know its kind of coward on my side, but it's like a self-preservation instict ya know... What should I do? Is there any other way to make it work? Do you think that if I stopped answering her calls she might realize she misses me and want to try something out? If we really gave the LDR a shot, I know that in less than one year we could be living in the same town (right now we live in opposite sides of the country (Russia, sorry for my english) and we don't have time to travel, just maybe twice before I could move there) Thanks!
folieadeux Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I'd sit down and explain to her everything you've stated here. If she still isn't open to the idea of an LDR, even though the distance would be resolved in a year (which isn't that long!), then unfortunately there really isn't much you can do. Both people have to be willing to dedicate themselves to this...and it's better that if she isn't, she's letting you know now than dragging you through months or even years of torture. If she still maintains that she isn't ready, then I would definitely cut contact if it'll be too difficult for you. Nothing wrong with looking out for yourself.
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