zengirl Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 If you're a man, know that women have a gene which causes them to choose formality over convenience every time. She will not think you look ridiculous if you show up for your date dressed in an Edwardian suit with a top hat and a monocle thrown in for good measure (even if she happens to be dressed like a 60s hippie)---she will think you look cute and therefore attractive. Sad but true, guys. Nothing sexier than a monocle. I think she'd think you were weird if you just showed up in that, and there was no real reason for it. I like it when a guy looks like he bothered to put a speck of time into getting ready -- nice, neat hair/clothes that fit him well and look good, but my BF wears jeans most of the time. Not a worry. Unless we're going to the opera or something.
Woggle Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 It's weird but I have often been chatted up by guys when I look like crap. Makeup has slid off the face, in some manky old jeans and a t-shirt. One night I went out to a big event, wore an amazing dress, put my hair up, took ages over my makeup. A male friend said "oh my god! I wish I had my camera you look absolutely amazing" - this compliment echoed by other people on the night. Did one guy approach me, look at me, talk to me? Nope. Not a one. Don't get it. Looking good is perhaps pointless. Or perhaps too off-putting. There have been a few occasions where I've been out with guys, and they do that forgetting I'm a girl thing and start commenting on how hot other girls are. So I say "well then, go and talk to them" "oh no, we couldn't, they wouldn't even look at us". Perhaps looking too groomed/attractive is intimidating for many men? I do make more of an effort when dating, but I'm trying to make that same effort when not dating and cull anything from my wardrobe that I don't look good in, so that I look good all the time whether single, dating or heartbroken (scrap that last one, I look like hell when heartbroken). This is because many men think a man does not have a chance with a woman like that. They assume she will reject them harshly which is not always the case.
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 This is because many men think a man does not have a chance with a woman like that. They assume she will reject them harshly which is not always the case. Yeah seems to be the case. Shame, I like getting dressed up sometimes, but it's disheartening when you know you look good and its almost like you do yourself a disservice.
USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 This is because many men think a man does not have a chance with a woman like that. They assume she will reject them harshly which is not always the case. Yeah seems to be the case. Shame, I like getting dressed up sometimes, but it's disheartening when you know you look good and its almost like you do yourself a disservice. This is why I think you should dress in a style that reflects you...you should be dressing for yourself and not dressing to impress others...unless that's your personality...so whether it's just any regular day or a date, I like my style to remain relatively the same...unless the situation calls for baller status...
Disillusioned Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Chalk up one more good reason to buy a Realdoll: she won't care if you're into "slob chic".
Els Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Chalk up one more good reason to buy a Realdoll: she won't care if you're into "slob chic". *shrugs* I really don't care what my guy wears. And no, I'm not a Realdoll.
yongyong Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 As a guy,I care very much about what I wear and am into fashion. the bottom line, I care about clothing rack (her) than her clothes. If she is very cute, fit, looks innocent, her non-sense for fashion will be forgiven. If she is a ugly girl, I will blame her sense of fashion. So as long as you don't wear something very stupid for date, it won't affect guy's decision. btw, I don't care about brands. You can still go to TJ maxx and make yourself very fashionable (again it depends how you look too) Or you can drop $$$ on ed hardy stuff but you will look very low class imo.
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