ruloog Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 This is my first post and I'm sorry if I'm missing something, but I've tried to seek some advice and I've not been lucky yet. She is 17, I'm 18. We met 2 years ago and we fell for each other really fast. Last May we had our 1st anniversary and everything was going fine, but then we started having some problems around our relationship, our friends, sex, among other things. So she said she wanted some time and I felt betrayed, so I told her to take her time but I didn't wanted to be with her anymore. About 2 or 3 weeks later (around September) and until last November or December, we kept talking to each other and saw each other twice (we kissed both times), and she wanted to go back with me but I didn't know what to do. I've just realized that her friends made her think different about me and convinced her not to seek me anymore. After the holidays (mid January) I realize I want to be with her again and contact her only to know that she's dating another guy (21). She still agrees to see me and from January 16 to January 30 we kept seeing each other. The thing is she told me from the start she didn't want to go back with me anymore, and that she changed her mind. Still she kept contact with me. Last weekend (Saturday) we told each other many things and whe both ended up crying. Finally we kissed all night long until she had to leave. Sunday she went to my house, we played, watched TV, and again we ended up kissing and hooking up (clearly leading to sex). I knew that maybe she didn't want to be with me but I still wanted to see her as a friend until she realized that she still got feelings for me. Finally she called me on monday. She told me that she couln't see me anymore. I asked why and the reason was her parents, telling her not to date for now. She told me not to worry, that she wouldn't be dating anyon, but she needed time (2 months or so). I was mad at her, but I told her that it was ok for her to think about what she really felt about everything, and a part of me was hoping her to finally come back. It's been 2 days and I can't take it anymore. I do try to have NC but I just can't. Every night I take my phone and decide to call her but then I stop. A part of me tells me that if I do NC she will miss me and she may notice that what we had was great, but another part (a great one) is only thinking that she will never call back and I will lose her forever. Today I called her but hang up before she answered the phone, and if I continue like this tomorrow I'll be calling her just to hear her voice or meet her somewhere to see her. I really don't know what's going on with her. Can people change feelings that fast? Am I dreaming something impossible? Am I doing right by NC her and waiting her to contact me? Thank you very much for reading, any advice will be really appreciated!
Author ruloog Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 i know this is quite long, but I'd really like some advice thanks!
liverpool fc Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 hello there sorry to here what has happened to you. i think it might be worth giving NC i go (even though its hard) just to see what will happen and how long before she tries contacting you. i understand it would be really difficult not to talk after knowing each other for so long and having had sex and etc. just try your best to have NC say even for 3 days to a week to see if she tries contacting you. try to keep yourself occupied so your not thinking about her 24/7. best of luck
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