Johnny Neutrino Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Hey LS, I was thinking you folks could help me with this issue I’m having. I have a female acquaintance that I’ve become somewhat attracted to and I want to try to take the friendship to the next level. She and I have a class together and I want to ask her if she’d want to go out for coffee or something and hang out for a little while. You know, something simple. The thing is, I’m pretty shy toward women. I’m worried that if I just up and ask her, I might come off as a bit of a creeper (we sit in different parts of the classroom and I tend to walk in a little early while she walks in right before class starts, so we don’t really come in contact with each other). I could try to Facebook chat with her to break the ice, but I’m worried that I’ll run out of things to say and it’ll get awkward. Do you have any ideas on how to make this a little easier for me?
joe777 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 johnny, relax dont think so much and be cool. i am shy to, i used to be painfully shy. so keep it light and only break off what you can handle. by that i mean, dont build this up to be some huge task. keep it short & simple.find something you think she may be interested in. if you are facebook friends then maybe check out her interest and see if there is anything you can do together. what class do you share? maybe that can be a connection...do some small talk after class on the way out, just to break the ice. but keep it short & sweet. YOU end the conversation. move on quickly. (for example, "blah blah blah blah something something about the class....alright well, see ya 'round) think of it as planting a seed. oh, and if you wanna facebook chat with her sometime...keep it very quick and super simple. and then either say "ok gotta run" or simply logout. The other night I saw this girl (at a loud sports bar), very attractive. i kinda know her through a distant friend. not much different from you noticing a girl in your class. i knew her name..so here is what i did. on my way out i purposely walk by her and said "hey jennfer, right? it's me Joe, meagans friend. i saw you and just wanted to say hi, how's everything? (good fine blah blah) ok great, it's so hard to hear in here. well I'm heading out, it was really good to see into you" "see you around" you could maybe even add a compliment (but dont over do it) ie "how's everything going? wow you really look great" okay well, i have to head out... Or maybe somehting like, well my friends are waiting for me I wish I could stay & talk- and then leave. Most important keep it short & simple..if you are shy like me. cuz you'll over analyze your words and then become even more shy. btw, the girl fb friended me a few weeks later.
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