eLego Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Ok, been together with my wife for about 12 years. I was 17 she was 15 when we met. We have always had a sort of rocky relationship. Constant disagreements, usually during family reunions, even a family funeral . When she turned 18 we had our first daughter, who is now 8. Everything seemed to be going good. She was a stay at home mom, seemed to get along with my mother very very good. She finally got a job the same place my mother was employed, about a week after she got the job we found out she was pregnant. Now this is where it gets interesting.... We are living with a family member, we are renting a split level home. She is about 3 months pregnant right now.One day aunt show me this home phone bill with tons of calls to numbers she doesn't recognize. My first thought is her husband is cheating on her. Turns out it was my wife making those calls! Turns out it was somebody from her new job. What freaked me out was the amount of calls she made to him in under 2 minutes, which was about 30!!!!! She was then 3 months pregnant, didn't know what to do, sucked it up and continued on. Why??? I don't know. About two years later, we decide that even though we have two kids we still need time for our selves. We start going out to clubs. At first it was about 2-3 times a month. After a couple of months it was almost every weekend. Seemed to be all she cared about. No club argument for sure that night. To my surprise she tells me one day that she is PREGNANT again. I was in shock, so young 3 kids what are we going to do? I do not believe in abortion so that was not an option. Nothing more than to work harder and move on. My first boy is born!! Everything seems perfect. Until one day we are at a club and this guy who we had sat but a couple of tables away from all those times, starts talking thrash. He seems drunk. I try to not pay attention, until he says her name. Then I start wondering. How does he know your name? She says I went to school with his wife. That's probably why. My boy is now about half a year old. One day just as I was getting ready to leave for work, I get a knock on my door. It's a police officer. I get butterflies in my stomach. He asks if this is my wife's residence. I ask if everything is alright with her, fearing the worst. He goes on to hand me this court document. The guy from the club, has gone to court and wants DNA testing to prove if he is the father of MY BOY. What can I say................ Felt like the world ended for me right there. Turns out he is NOT my kid. Again I tell her to move out. She does and leaves to a relatives house. About a week passed and she comes back to the house for some things and wouldn't you know it I take her back. My boy now has to spend half the day sunday and wednesday with his biological father. My mother buys a house, two stories. She offers us a cheap rent and also offers us to help us out with the kids while we save up enough to get a house of our own. Over a year has passed and instead of her trying to prove how much she cares about me and the kids, she does the opposite. Doesn't clean the house, doesn't cook. Dirty clothes have been sitting there for about 5 months. She seems to not even care to try. My mother seems to be doing all of the stuff my wife should be doing. Feeding the kids, getting them ready for school. Not right, not at all. One day I just snapped told her to move out please. She left to her moms house. Two weeks passed and I have 0 contact with her or the kids. Longest we have actually ever been apart. I finally decide to go see them. Her mom let's me in I get to see my kids but she says next time I want to see them it must be after we go to court. So that I could get visitation rights. I wanted to rush ahead and do it. But decided on waiting it out and letting her feel what it is to actually have some responsibilities. And hopefully see what she once had. Sorry for the novel, just need some advice.
PegNosePete Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Before you do anything, I would strongly advise you to get DNA tests on the other kids. It certainly sounds like she was cheating when she had the second. That casts a big doubt about the first, too.
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