Xristopher Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 I'm 20 years old, and have been going out with the same girl for 2 years now. When we first got together, I cheated on her with a foreign exchange student from Germany that went to my highschool that year. After my girlfriend found out, she broke up with me, but I kept after her and finally got her to realize that it was just some stupid mistake. She eventually trusted me again, and we got back together. For the most part, things have been going fine until a few months ago, when a friend of hers started to like her. She told me about him, and asked me what she should do about him, because she "didn't want to lose him as a friend." I told her that she should tell him that she has a boyfriend and that he should move on and she should avoid him for awhile. A few weeks later she was almost raped by another friend of hers. I guess, afterwards, I sort of felt inept and powerless. I felt like less of a man. After that stuff cleared up, everything was fine until spring break. I spent it hanging out with my younger brother and cousin. My brother is 19, and my cousin 18. We were busy most of the time, and I didn't call my girlfriend as much as I should have, and she got very upset. I would have spent the week with her, but she was out of town anyway. Over the week my cousin, brother, and I decided that we were going to go to Europe at the end of the summer. My dad heard of our plans and volunteered his frequent flier miles to us. We have enough to buy 2 tickets, and we only needed one more. By then end of the summer, we'd have more than enough money for the whole trip. I told my girlfriend about it and she went crazy. She started crying and telling me not go, and that she couldn't take it anymore. I asked her what that meant, and she said that she was going to break up with me. She doesn't trust me at all. She said I could go with her in a few years, when I told her that I might not ever get a chance. I don't want to wait, and I want to go with my brother and cousin, not her. I want to have some fun in my life, before I'm 30. What should I do?
tattoomytoe Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 well i would go... this is almost a once in a lifetime thing with your bro and cousin, it sounds like a blast! yeah she has some trust issues with you, and if this is one of them, well she needs to work through it herself. are you going to be faithful? or if the opportunity came up, would you have fun with some other girls on the trip? what is considered cheating? she sounds overbearing....but you chased after her the first time, so she may be worth it to you. i would sit her down and try to work through it...hell invite her if you really want
Xristopher Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 I'm not going to cheat on her. I would invite her, but she won't be able to go, and my brother and cousin wouldn't want her to. My brother and cousin are practically 3 brothers, and we've been best friend for our whole lives, it's supposed to be just us. When I try to talk to her about it, she just cries and tells me the same thing over and over again, that she can't handle it.
tattoomytoe Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 well i agree, i wouldn't want to take her either, nor would i want to hang out with 3 guys all the time. well just let it lay low for now, she will hopefully warm up to the idea-or not, in which i wouldn't want her to dictate my life and doings anyways!
Sundaymorning Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 I'm 20 years old, and have been going out with the same girl for 2 years now. My first suggestion here to to break up. I think since yall have been together since 18 years of age, you have not had the chance to see everything that is out there. I do not think she is the one for you....Which leads me to..... I don't want to wait, and I want to go with my brother and cousin, not her. I want to have some fun in my life, before I'm 30. What should I do? Saying this, it is very obvious she is a small pain the ass for you, which is sad- shouldnt be that way. But she deserves more and maybe better. You on the other hand, need to do what you say you want to do- have fun in your life till (oh my god! the big big) 3-0 hits. Cause we all know the fun in life ends at 30 . Dude move on. Go on your trip and let her move on as well.
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