Gunnar Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Okay, so. my girlfrien and i have been dating for 3 years now, but for the past six months, we have been long distance. i love her and she loves me. recently i visited her, and told her about the anxiety disorder that i was just diagnosed with. she then told me that she had kissed another guy, which, admittadly i was upset with, but we are in a semi-open relationship, so i cant be too angry about. just tonight, she told me that she might go over to "teddy's" because he can make her happy (teddy is not the one she kissed, and she has depression) how do i deal? i know that it shouldn't feel this way, but i feel like she's just twisting a knife in my gut.
wild_urge Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 why are you semi-open if you don't like the idea of her being with other guys ? Have you tried to talk to her about that ? You have an anxiety disorder and she has a depression . . . do you think that it is healthy for you to be in a LDR ? I mean, it is of course if you love each other, but I don't understand how come after 3 years you are still in an open relationship. . . I don't want to judge you, but it seems to me that after so long thing should be serious. . . I don't see how an open or semi-open LDR would work, if you really want to be with this girl you should talk to her and set some boundaries, it's hard enough that you are separated, don't add the pressure of having to always think of whom she is with . . .
folieadeux Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Having an open relationship is always a recipe for disaster. You should clear that up first and go from there. Sounds like neither one of you needs that added stress right now with your existing conditions.
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