pinl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 (edited) Hi. I think it's the 1st time I really don't know what is going on and I need to ask someone else than my "wingmate". I live in London, I met this girl trough Facebook (she contacted me because of the music/books I have in my profile). She likes what I do and I like what she does. I'm 30, she is 25. I normally don't have problems in getting a girlfriend as long as I have some time to speak to her. I had some shy and also some pretty self-centred girlfriends in the past. But in this case, I'm out in the blue. We went out twice, both times her general suggestion but I ended up arranging the date itself. But nothing happened. She is very shy in person (although a bit more open on the phone), but I didn't try anything (I never do in the first dates ... and so far that hasn't been a problem with the previous girls I've been with). She gave very few physical signs except for looking me quite a lot in the eyes. Every time I call her, she picks up right away, and actually seems happy to talk to me and every time I suggest something we could "hypothetically" do together in the future she sounds truly interested and says she wants to do it. And no, it's not because of me paying drinks/cinema/whatever to her, because we did/arrange mainly free cultural activities. But the thing is, she never, ever contacts me unless I take the initiative to call/text/msn her first! I really find this very strange, because I've never met anyone like this. I mean, either they where into me and contacted me or they weren't and took some time to answer my contacts and I got the message and lost interest right away. So, I don't know if she is just extremely polite and just not into me, or she is very shy and wants me to do everything. I'm seeing another girl as well (just flirting), but sincerely, I really like the one that doesn't seem to pay me much attention So, the questions is. What do you think it's going on and, if I should invest in this relationship, what do you recommend? Edited February 3, 2011 by pinl Forgot to actually ask something.
utterer of lies Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 So, the questions is. What do you think it's going on and, if I should invest in this relationship, what do you recommend? Take her out a third time, kiss her and see what happens.
Author pinl Posted February 3, 2011 Author Posted February 3, 2011 (edited) Take her out a third time, kiss her and see what happens. Well, that was the all or nothing approach I also thought of. Still, I'm wondering if I should wait 1 or 2 weeks without saying anything before I do try and get the 3rd date. Edited February 3, 2011 by pinl
utterer of lies Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Still, I'm wondering if I should wait 1 or 2 weeks without saying anything before I do try and get the 3rd date. The situation is clear for you. Why risk it by playing games...if she's not interested now, she won't suddenly be interested in a few weeks.
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