babybear Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Just wanted to ask you all your opinion on something... If you go NC with someone - and they know you have blocked them (email/phone/etc.) but you really wanted to be a part of their life still, would you find a way?
suddendumpee Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I think if you are asking this, you may be doing NC for the wrong reasons. Don't worry, the longer you stick to it, the longer these feelings will pass. And to answer your question, if someone did that I would assume they were done with me. I would then leave them alone out of fear that I would be accused of stalking. But that's just me.
Lil1 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Babybear, how long has it been since you went NC, and what were the circumstances? I think that maybe you should revisit the reasons why you went NC in the first place and really think about whther this person is really worth your time and effort (and a little bit of loss of pride) to get back in touch with them. Did this person hurt you or wrong you in some way? If so are you willing to truly forgive and forget? Do you think that this person would want to hear from you again? I think once you go NC it's best to just let it be. If you are meant to see this person again, the powers that be will make it so. Otherwise if you want to pursue this person then it's something you should give much thought to, don't let it be an impulse at a moment of weakness (i.e. feeling lonely or deppressed). More background info. would help people give you advice!
Author babybear Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 OOPS - Sorry, I mistyped. No, I have ZERO intention of contacting this person. Yes, it sucks a little, but I wouldn't have done it if I didn't believe it was for the best. What I meant to say was, would THEY make contact. And not to reconcile, but just to apologize. While I realize I shut off any avenue for apology, I can't say I wouldn't like to get one, one day.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 OOPS - Sorry, I mistyped. No, I have ZERO intention of contacting this person. Yes, it sucks a little, but I wouldn't have done it if I didn't believe it was for the best. What I meant to say was, would THEY make contact. And not to reconcile, but just to apologize. While I realize I shut off any avenue for apology, I can't say I wouldn't like to get one, one day. I think what suddendumpee's point was, you are still holding out false hope that they are going to contact you. I mean realistically, someone who broke up with you probably isn't going to apologize, at least not anytime soon. If you have gone as far as to do NC and block them, then they probably assume you don't want to talk to them. That being said, if there is a will there is a way. But in your case, please give up this notion whether or not they will contact you or apologize. Just assume they aren't going to and continue to do NC.
i made a mess Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Just wanted to ask you all your opinion on something... If you go NC with someone - and they know you have blocked them (email/phone/etc.) but you really wanted to be a part of their life still, would you find a way? I dumped my ex and he changed his number. I have sent him a letter and even found him on a dating website and signed up so I could message him. He still doesn't respond though. :-\
timchambo Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I dumped my ex and he changed his number. I have sent him a letter and even found him on a dating website and signed up so I could message him. He still doesn't respond though. :-\ what were your reasons for breaking up?
durkadurka Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 My ex sent me a letter. I haven't received anything written from her in almost 2 years. They will find a way if they are so inclined.
i made a mess Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 what were your reasons for breaking up? I would run every time we got close because I was so scared he'd leave me once he got to know everything about me. The guy I dated prior to him really did a number on me. Once I decided I needed to take a leap, he had already started to cut me off because I put him through an emotional rollercoaster. He changed his number in the middle of november without any warning. No fight, no I need space, no I can't do this anymore.. Not a day has gone by, and there's been 80+ of them, that I don't think of him and long to hear his voice, and just wrap my arms around him. I miss him so much. I am going crazy trying to reach him an have tried twice now. I don't wanna come across as a psycho and blow him up but fear got me into this mess so I'm ready to do whatever it takes to earn his trust again an show him I won't run. I've been in therapy since November working on myself and I just want the opportunity to talk to him, even if it changes nothing.
0hpenelope Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 If they want to contact, they will find a way. Yes, they will.
Author babybear Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 I'm not holding out for an apology... That would be kind of ridiculous of me to think he'd step up now, when he didn't all this time. I might just be having a really "good" day - but I feel like I'm really on the upswing, and I don't want him to find some roundabout way to contact me and pull me back down.
MissyLove Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 If they want to contact, they will find a way. Yes, they will. I agree. I believe if they truly love you and realise this and want to be with you, they will do whatever they can to contact you.
mridul_chajilee Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Very good question,i support ur question.I hv spent 1year of NC,But i dont know why something happen in my heart want to hear her voice and want to ask her 'Chajilee how are you',but i have no any way to talk to her coz she had blocked her phone,email even her frnds and place of work.I dont knw where is she! But i miss her lot till toady,i think this is called love.If i hv completed 1year NC,she also has completed 1year NC.So i wil waiting for her call this 2011 till december 31,if she really loved me for 11years then she wil call me and wil regret.thanks and everything is in GOD's hand.
MissyLove Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I'm not holding out for an apology... That would be kind of ridiculous of me to think he'd step up now, when he didn't all this time. I might just be having a really "good" day - but I feel like I'm really on the upswing, and I don't want him to find some roundabout way to contact me and pull me back down. Hey babybear! I understand where u are coming from. My ex broke up with me after 3 years, scared of commitment I believe but gave me all these different reasons. It has been just over 2 months NC now and I'm doing well, so much better than at the start. Although I want him to call at the same time, I don't want to risk being hurt and heartbroken again. Someone I know bumped into him about a week ago and he told them that he misses me and has been wanting to call me but has been hesitant because I told him to never call him again (I made him promise me that he'd never contact me again). I guess it's a good thing because unless he is 100% sure about me, realized he made the biggest mistake and is ready to commit, then he should not be calling me. But bottom line, as I said above, if someone really loves u, they will find a way to contact you!
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