Mrlonelyone Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 @Curious Knowing the difference between a come hither look and a friendly courtesy comes from experiences. On the other hand one of my past women, the mother of my child, once said after sex that she was just being nice. If anything women are more likely to pretend that they are not interested due to social pressure. "Good girls don't want to have sex"..."men are more interested and need it more" .... total B.S. BS borne of a more conservative era.
waynebrady Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 If anything women are more likely to pretend that they are not interested due to social pressure. "Good girls don't want to have sex"..."men are more interested and need it more" .... total B.S. BS borne of a more conservative era. It's not pretending. Women genuinly don't like sex as much as men. It's a fairly new idea in recent years that women want sex, invented by men who lets their imagination get out of hand. It's wishful thinking really to say that women want sex. Having sex is a rather nasty and unethical act, sensible mentally strong women don't let society pressure them into thinking that it's "ok" for them to want sex. Its not ok because it's not what they want, they get tricked into thinking they want sex. A true gentleman realises this. And don't have sex with their wife for anything other than reproduction, that is the only time sex should be had. It feels great for us men to have sex and most men would probably want to have sex with their wife/girlfriend as much as possible. But it's wrong, because it only hurts and degrades the woman. We as men should keep our urges under control for that reason. There are pills I believe which reduces sex drive, all men should use pills like that in relationships. I sure will in an eventual relationship with a woman.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 It's not pretending. Women genuinly don't like sex as much as men. Women like sex just as much as men their sex drive is not the same as a man's but they do like sex, and get horny just like men do. Check out this source http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2 While it does say men have a higher libido Women's sexuality has : Women's attitudes towards (and willingness to perform) various sexual practices are more likely than men's to change over time. Women who regularly attend church are less likely to have permissive attitudes about sex. Men do not show this connection between church attendance and sex attitudes. Women are more influenced by the attitudes of their peer group in their decisions about sex. Women with higher education levels were more likely to have performed a wider variety of sexual practices (such as oral sex); education made less of a difference with men. Women were more likely than men to show inconsistency between their expressed values about sexual activities such as premarital sex and their actual behavior. So don't believe a woman who says they don't desire sex.
curiousaboutthings Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Well, on average, men make more still in the U.S. So, more women would have to marry up, if everybody married. I disagree that most women consciously look to marry up these days. I've dated men who earned more or less than me, at various points, and know many women who have. Women rarely date men making less than them. Either way why do you think men make more? Because they know women like men with money. Men make more because men work longer hours, choose fields which pay more and support stay at home spouses. This is actually causing a shortage of men in fields where they are needed especially teaching and nursing.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I agree actually. That is why i think it is ridiculous that the guy has to do all the work when both parties want sex and a relationship. Both are benefiting and both should have to work for it. That happens because allot of women take advantage of the common belief that they are not into it. They withhold sex from their main man to manipulate him. If men knew women wanted it just as bad then that withholding would not work.
waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I agree actually. That is why i think it is ridiculous that the guy has to do all the work when both parties want sex and a relationship. Both are benefiting and both should have to work for it. The reason the guy has to do all the work is because it's only the guy who wants sex. Look at relationships/marriages it's almost always the man who complains about lack of sex. I don't think it's some sort of game played by women by making the man do all the work. I think they make the man do all the work because they genuinly don't like sex. I think it's just that simple.
waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Women like sex just as much as men their sex drive is not the same as a man's but they do like sex, and get horny just like men do. Check out this source http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2 While it does say men have a higher libido Women's sexuality has : So don't believe a woman who says they don't desire sex. Most women lets face it are very prudish and conservative when it comes to sex. So I don't get that article. It sure would be nice to think that women can get horny, but they can't, it's first of all physically impossible for them to even get horny. It sure would be nice to think women like to try new things and be experimental in bed... But they aren't. They don't initiate sex ever so that kinda fails right there, they basicly let the man advance and then lay on the bed and wanting missionary only. Hey thats how most marriages are. I'm absolutley sure of it. I have realised this, not from own experiences but from sterotypes and from what I see men say and write all the time. Way I see it, the less men think about sex or express anything about sex when being with a woman to more succes he will have. It's about patience and respect for the lady you know.
Anela Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 (edited) I could easily get sex by doing something deemed slutty, or meeting guys through a dating site, and having my way with them, but I don't just want sex. I almost went through with casual sex, but when it came down to it, I realized that I really didn't want them touching me. I didn't know them, they didn't know me, they just wanted my body for a while.. that may be okay for some, but I felt yucky. That's the way I've felt whenever I've received solely sexual attention - I don't like it (and I've received a lot of it, just thanks to my figure/chest). I now get stared at, but rarely approached, and I've been told by others that they've noticed men checking me out. I wouldn't mind getting to know them, and seeing where things go, but I don't know how to be approachable to these potentially good guys, when I'm walking around a grocery store, the bookstore, etc. I don't go dancing (although that might be changing soon - a class, at the very least- not clubbing), and have been approached when laughing with someone else, or giving them a big smile as I opened a door for them... one thing that has happened with me, is that I'll get nervous, and freeze, so they either think I'm not interested, or that I have no brain. *edit. I was actually venting about this last year, to a man that I know- I unleashed the frustration over barely being approached: why did I get so much sexual attention, and not nearly as much respectful attention as my sister? Was I not that attractive? (I've been assured that's not the case, and have randomly been told that I'm so pretty, but it's hard to believe a lot of the time). Edited February 17, 2011 by Anela
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