Curious-One Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I always hear from guys ...girls have it easy they can get sex whenever they want or they have guys hitting on them all the time. Now i go to a big University and barely ever see guys hitting on girls. Yet guys always say girls have alot more options then guys. How true is that. How many times do you get hit on in normal public locations, shoping centers, university, malls, etc etc. Plz dont include clubs, parties or bars where alcohol is involved.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Outside of the clubs and bars, you're going to have to dress really provocative to get approached. It's easy for most girls to get sex, that is why you often hear girls turn it down.
SmileFace Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Outside of the clubs and bars, you're going to have to dress really provocative to get approached. It's easy for most girls to get sex, that is why you often hear girls turn it down. I don't actually agree with this. Well, every time I wear that low cut shirt,hmmm.... lol
zengirl Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Yes. It's pretty easy. I'm in a relationship, and I still get asked out at least once pretty much every week. Never go to clubs. Never dress flashy. Half the time, I get asked out in the grocery store. But I'm chatty. I talk to strangers all the time.
spackle Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I think that's the key - being chatty rather than looking slutty I have to be in the mood for chatty & smiley - I have things to think about lol (not saying you don't zen)
zengirl Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I think that's the key - being chatty rather than looking slutty I have to be in the mood for chatty & smiley - I have things to think about lol (not saying you don't zen) Actually, I try very hard to be present (in the moment) and NOT think about things, so maybe I don't.
alethean Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I don't know. For me it's really hard; I think that 99.999999% of the time I am ignored. However, some of my friends always seem to have someone at their feet. A couple of years ago, however, I was told by friends who spend lots of time with me that there are definitely guys who want me, but I'm too oblivious. Apparently I am my own worst enemy when it comes to opposite gender relations.
GirlnamedAngel Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Whenever I am single and ready to start dating again I'll put an online dating ad up. I'll leave the ad up for 48 hours max- because after 48 hours I will have already gotten over a hundred emails and I just can't respond to all those emails. So after 48 hours I'll pick a few guys I liked and give them my email address or whatever. They all ask me out. I could have a date every night this week if I wanted. I get the impression it isn't as easy for men though. But I am not sure. I am not like pumping myself up here or anything. I think this is common for any reasonably attractive woman who dresses well and behaves in a classy fashion. However... in public men NEVER hit on me. They will stare until their eyes fall out of their heads but that's it... they never approach me. I think they are intimidated for some reason. That has to be it. Point of reference though... this is a personal ad I put up and took down after two days recently... I don't know how attractive I am or anything but the ad seemed to be a big success?? http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=25419402 Simply put... I think that yes, we do have more options sometimes.
SarcasticBlonde Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I always hear from guys ...girls have it easy they can get sex whenever they want or they have guys hitting on them all the time. Now i go to a big University and barely ever see guys hitting on girls. Yet guys always say girls have alot more options then guys. How true is that. How many times do you get hit on in normal public locations, shoping centers, university, malls, etc etc. Plz dont include clubs, parties or bars where alcohol is involved. I have a boyfriend but I get approached pretty often, and its usually a guy asking for my phone number. I was always pretty selective about who I went out with. Seems some guys with aren't too selective about who they sleep with.
somedude81 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Whenever I am single and ready to start dating again I'll put an online dating ad up. I'll leave the ad up for 48 hours max- because after 48 hours I will have already gotten over a hundred emails and I just can't respond to all those emails. So after 48 hours I'll pick a few guys I liked and give them my email address or whatever. They all ask me out. I could have a date every night this week if I wanted. I get the impression it isn't as easy for men though. But I am not sure. ROFL!!!!! For reference, I've had a profile up on OKC for a few months, and I've gotten zero messages. I've said it a hundred times, men and women don't play by the same rules in the dating game. Actually, I'm not sure that we are even playing the same game. For the record, I have only known of three girls in my life time who were attracted to me enough to approach me. Compare that to the girls who get asked out at least once a week. 3 vs who knows how many hundreds.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Dating and sex can be easily acquired for a man but there's got to be certain parameters. But it'll pale in comparison to the availability of the opposite sex and sex available to an attractive woman.
Mad Max Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 As long as the girl is average looking, the answer is yes. There will always be a guy desperate enough to hit it.
pandagirl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I haven't been asked out on a date, that wasn't via a dating site, in about... seven years. If i wanted to have sex, I could probably just approach any dude on the street, and get laid. So dating, no. Sex, probably yes.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 A friend of mine used to joke around and say "A woman could stand outside in some skimpy underwear with a sign that says looking for sex, and she'd get play almost instantly. But let a man do it, his ass is getting straight reported to the cops."
deebeechrisyo Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I live in a city where the male to female ratio is anywhere from 3-1 to 7-1, depending on how many soldiers are stationed here. The girls here live pretty much like rock stars. In fact, NO girl is completely single as they always have something going on with another dude. I can actually see the fear in the eyes of an attractive girl who enters a bar here, as hundreds of desperate, frustrated men instantly come attention. Husbands have to put up with anything and everything, since they literally cannot find another single woman here. They don't exist.
Mad Max Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I haven't been asked out on a date, that wasn't via a dating site, in about... seven years. If i wanted to have sex, I could probably just approach any dude on the street, and get laid. So dating, no. Sex, probably yes. I find that hard to believe, the dating part. You're telling me since 2003-2004, not one guy asked you for a date?
zengirl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I live in a city where the male to female ratio is anywhere from 3-1 to 7-1, depending on how many soldiers are stationed here. The girls here live pretty much like rock stars. In fact, NO girl is completely single as they always have something going on with another dude. I can actually see the fear in the eyes of an attractive girl who enters a bar here, as hundreds of desperate, frustrated men instantly come attention. Husbands have to put up with anything and everything, since they literally cannot find another single woman here. They don't exist. That sounds like a circle of hell to me. As a woman. Jeez. (I'm sure it doesn't sound great to the men either.)
Eeyore79 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I've been told I'm quite an attractive girl, but I don't get hit on every five minutes. Guys do tend to stare at me, but they don't just approach me in the street or anything. At a club or party I could probably take a guy home every night if I was prepared to approach him, but it's much less likely that a guy will approach me unless I show interest in him first. It seems like guys tend to approach girls who are pretty but not too pretty; i.e. they approach the type of girls they think they might have a chance with. If a girl is very pretty, guys tend to assume she's probably already taken, or that she has high standards and would never go out with them. In general, only the cocky over-confident douchebags approach really pretty girls, and they aren't the type that any woman wants to date. After years of only being approached by douchebags, I've found that if I want a decent man I have to choose one and give him the come-on before he will have the nerve to make a move on me.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I've been told I'm quite an attractive girl, but I don't get hit on every five minutes. Guys do tend to stare at me, but they don't just approach me in the street or anything. At a club or party I could probably take a guy home every night if I was prepared to approach him, but it's much less likely that a guy will approach me unless I show interest in him first. It seems like guys tend to approach girls who are pretty but not too pretty; i.e. they approach the type of girls they think they might have a chance with. If a girl is very pretty, guys tend to assume she's probably already taken, or that she has high standards and would never go out with them. In general, only the cocky over-confident douchebags approach really pretty girls, and they aren't the type that any woman wants to date. After years of only being approached by douchebags, I've found that if I want a decent man I have to choose one and give him the come-on before he will have the nerve to make a move on me. This is true for both genders. I've always been handsome, but for the majority of my life I was a bit overweight. Still, girls would approach me, and were friendlier with me, more secure with me. It wasn't until about a year and a half ago, when I managed to get into better shape, that I started having issues with being "too handsome" w/e that means. What the hell is too good looking? Sounds like backwards logic to me. The more attractive someone is, the better...at least that's what I thought was true. But so many people are insecure, and lack confidence in themselves, that you're own beauty will actually push them away. Isn't that crazy? Really, isn't that just like "Wow!" crazy?
Leviia Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I have been single going on 5 years now. I think my problem is I have 3 kids as I have never been asked out on a date. It may be that I am just running constantly ... I do go to college to finish getting my PTA and such ... I'm not bad looking either.. or at least I have been told that. So either I'm just completely blind and deaf to any one asking me out or I just don't get asked out
Mad Max Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 It seems like guys tend to approach girls who are pretty but not too pretty; i.e. they approach the type of girls they think they might have a chance with. I'd say that's pretty accurate, especially with guys of a similar rating scale. If you're up there(probably 7+), you're better looking than at least 70-75% of the population and people are going to be afraid to approach you for various reasons. But if anyone does approach you, odds are it'll be some creep. If a girl is very pretty, guys tend to assume she's probably already taken, or that she has high standards and would never go out with them. Or that they're just flat out obnoxious, which in my experience is the case. To be fair, most good looking guys are the same. In general, only the cocky over-confident douchebags approach really pretty girls, and they aren't the type that any woman wants to date. Don't forget the creeps that know they have nothing to lose. After years of only being approached by douchebags, I've found that if I want a decent man I have to choose one and give him the come-on before he will have the nerve to make a move on me. That's pretty much what it comes down to. And I've also found that the girls that approach me are usually higher quality and more fun than those that refuse to approach.
Stung Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I think this depends on a variety of factors, attractiveness being only one. Chattiness, sociability, is another. It's always been relatively easy for me to meet men, as I'm fairly sociable and often striking up conversations and meeting new people. I have friends who are more naturally shy and retiring than I am, or have some social anxieties, and they have a much harder time even when they're attractive. Another factor is location. I used to get cold-approached regularly out in public, happens a lot more in the city. Of course roughly half of the guys who try this method in the city are basically walking penises crudely hitting on everything that moves and has an ovary, or else they're mentally disturbed and actually potentially dangerous, so being approached like this often inspires tension and wariness rather than the woman feeling happy or flattered. It's more rare that I get asked out on dates these days, not too surprising since I wear a wedding ring and usually have a toddler with me. Sometimes I get hit on despite the ring when I'm out by myself, and just last week a dad asked me out while I was at the park pushing my son in the swing. Usually it's men misinterpreting my normal friendliness as something else, and the implication is that it's for an affair, base sex, not really a dating situation. It would also be easy to go to a bar and end up getting laid, if that were something I wanted to do. Like most women, that's not really the way I operate, though. Age factors into this as well. Men approach more when everyone is young and single. It gets a little harder to meet guys casually when you're not rotating through different classes every semester, and growing out of the clubbing scene, and all your friends are starting to pair up. If you don't want to dip your pen in the company ink, and you don't like going to bars, and you don't feel comfortable striking up conversations with strangers when you're out and about or putting yourself in new social situations frequently, and your friends are married and off the hunt, then it can be a lot harder to meet people to date even for women.
pandagirl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I find that hard to believe, the dating part. You're telling me since 2003-2004, not one guy asked you for a date? Correct! I've met guys via dating site, but not in "regular" life.
Mad Max Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Correct! I've met guys via dating site, but not in "regular" life. I don't know. I've seen average looking girls(and overweight ones as well) get approached and asked out. I'm guessing either one of those two apply to you or you don't put yourself out there.
sweetjasmine Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 How many times do you get hit on in normal public locations, shoping centers, university, malls, etc etc. Not that often. Maybe a few times a month, tops. I hate being cold approached by strangers, so I'm usually pretty stand-offish in public. As a result, only the crazies and creeps try. I've had men make comments about my breasts (real classy ), and one nutjob thought it'd be cool to stay 30 feet away from me and follow me around the park. He had introduced himself, and I didn't say a word, so he sat behind me, watched me, came up to me again to say, "I'll be over here, come talk to me," walked away to keep watching me, and then followed me when I left. That kind of BS makes it even less likely that I'll respond positively to anyone's cold approach, even if I were single.
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