julesxoxo Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Okay, so I'm 16 years old but I do know what love is. Me and my boyfriend of 6 months just broke up a week ago. He said that "we can be friends for now. i want you to go out and have fun, kiss other guys but no head, no even touching another guys dick." He said that we can try to date again in the summer and I promised him I'd wait for him. He told me he isn't going to hook up with other people either, that the farthest he may go is kiss another girl. He said that he just "can't handle a relationship right now." Some days he's extremely flirty and others he barely talks to me. I want him back so bad but he's confusing me so much! I lost my virginity and heart to this guy and we've had so many wonderful times, I really can't lose him. I should mention that this is a LDR but he only lives 1:10 minutes away and I used to see him every weekend. He's coming over Saturday to "say goodbye" for a couple months, until we see each other this summer. What should I do?!
january2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Granted, I'm not a guy but in my experence, guys tend to be very territorial if they are really into a girl. If you really like someone, it's unlikely that you'll want to give mixed signals or let them "kiss other guys." In my opinion, he is probably considering other girls and to his credit has decided to let you go (for now). He's essentially keeping you as a back-up in case his other options don't work out. You deserve to be someone's priority and not their option. Hard though it's going to be, I suggest going NC. You don't have to delete his details but block his contacts. This gives you time to heal and get your head clear. If the summer comes around and you feel more emotionally stable, you can contact him again to talk. But only when you're ready and not when he's ready.
Author julesxoxo Posted February 3, 2011 Author Posted February 3, 2011 The thing I don't get is why he would say I can kiss and dance other guys but then be so strick about not going into their pants. It's like.. if he didn't care about me why would he care about that? & he told me he's not interested in hooking up with other girls
january2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I'm sorry but the crux of the matter is that he's messing you around. If you're not together, he has no right to suggest what you can or can't do with other guys - that's for you to decide. Either you're together or you're not. Anything else not worth discussing or worrying about until that's clear.
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