sugargirl Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I like to keep guys waiting on the first dates before even kissing them much. It normally works, but I wonder if there are guys who would be good for me me but, just wouldn't wait. Am I missing out by not "putting out"?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 No, you are NOT missing out by not 'putting out'. (although it is fun to joke about such stereotypes !) Just stick with your program and you'll do fine!
StoneCold Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 That term..."give it up".....heheh..... its just sex.... However I think you should do what you're most comfortable with.... I personally dont get whats with the whole "waiting" thing; it proves nothing but thats just me.
tigressA Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Don't wait just in hopes of making a guy stick around longer. Wait based on your own comfort level and readiness. Do what you want when you feel comfortable enough to do it. Keep to your own time line, not some arbitrary one supposedly necessary to make a guy like you more.
elastica Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Seriously, I don't think you should have sex with anyone until you think you are "giving it up"...
phineas Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Just because a guy waits doesn't mean he's going to stick around. He might like a challange & doesn't mind waiting because he's got some one else. when your ready, you are ready.
StoneCold Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Just because a guy waits doesn't mean he's going to stick around. He might like a challange & doesn't mind waiting because he's got some one else. when your ready, you are ready. Not to mention he might just "wait you out" with his NSA sex friend...thats why I said waiting proves nothing
zengirl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 You should have sex when you want to and it meets whatever terms you've set forth for yourself. I never have sex if I'm not in a relationship with the guy and I don't feel a real connection with him; that's me. I do things on my own terms, and anyone who cannot deal with my terms. . . well, they're incompatible to me. I'd rather miss out on great guys who are incompatible to me, because these great guys aren't great for me, and I'm not great for them. Let them find girls who are. Sex isn't something you "give up" --- it's something you share with someone and enjoy together, in whatever form you choose---anything between total NSA, don't know each others' names to waiting till marriage. Just make sure it fits YOUR values, timeline, and comfort.
alphamale Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Am I missing out by not "putting out"? kissing is not "putting out"
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