dng Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Ok so. Time has passed, I got better. Underwent therapy to figure myself out, to cut out all the noise and understand my role in this and what I wanted for me now. To figure out what my new life would be. We cut off ties in everything, we don't talk or chat or email anymore. After 6 months of thinking I was finally able to understand what had happened between us and wrote all of that in an email that I sent her. I never got a chance to give my side of the story because she was blaming everything on me so I did that instead. Needless to say, it made her quite mad at me. Those 6 months of therapy and reflexions resumed in 3 pages must have been quite the block of ice to fall on her head but I can't worry about her anymore. Now she still owes me a substancial amount of money, a few thousands. She is probably broke now because she lost everything in the breakup - but perhaps she started building again, I don't know and don't want to know. Should I go after her for my money or just accept it as another casualty of the breakup?
AgeOfUninnocence Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I'm going to have to agree. After we broke up, my ex owed me some money too. Initially at the break up, he told me he would pay me back, and I told him he didn't have to, but he insisted he would. Well. He didn't. A few months went by, and I asked our mutual friend if he ever said anything about paying me back. He responded to her saying that he didn't, but that he really should and he was going to do it as soon as he got paid. Still didn't. Later on, my ex and I had a competition, and I won, so as my prize, I said I wanted the money he owed me back. he agreed. We ran into each other at another mutual gathering one night. He said he didn't have the money yet, but he would. Now it's been months later, I don't have it, and I'm not even desperately seeking it, but I just know he's not going to give it to me. I can understand where it's a considerable amount of money for you, a couple thousands, but I think it's better to just let it go and consider it a good deed rather than wait around for the money to come back to you. In the grand scheme, I'd rather lose some money than get my money back and have some kind of argument.
Author dng Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Just to update this. I never got my money back. She told me she'd deposit it in my account but never did. At one point a few months ago I sent her an email about it, simple thing, can you please pay back the money you owe me, I need it for rent (I really did). Looks like she's fine with me being in trouble because of her (she left me with all the bills obviously), because she replied "Please call me to discuss it" knowing full well I would never call her. I had sent her a reply "There is nothing to discuss, you know the amounts and you have my banking info". Honestly, I was hoping for at least the money she borrowed AFTER she left. Well good thing I didnt hold my breath for that one because I would be dead now. Just another proof of her moral bankruptcy I suppose. Pisses me off I ever got involved with her in the first place and makes me glad she's gone.
sun_moon Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 DAMN IT! I'm concerned I'm not going to get my money either. SOB.
knathema Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 (edited) I just contacted her today, she seemed friendly and i got my money back. But then i wasnt really talking to her and she got all pissy. I feel kinda bad for being kinda cold. Oh well, i was the dumpee and I DONT CARE ANYMORE. Edited June 8, 2011 by knathema
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