smudge21 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 How many times would you keep allowing your ex to come back into your life once they've left you? I have two friends who have been on and off with each other for the past 3 years. She's left him around 4 times but he always takes her back (they flat share anyway). Personally, I just couldn't do that. Okay, maybe after one time, but four! Surely he must know that it's going to keep on happening, and she really can't respect him enough to be faithfull because he clearly just lets this happen. I don't know. I'm just after other's opinions on why someone would keep taking someone else back.
knime32 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I'm in a similar situation, except I'm like your male friend. My boyfriend and I have been off and on for 7 years. Our relationship problems revolve around communication issues. For me, its hard to let go of something that works on every level and there is an abundant amount of love...we just can't communicate well, more so on his end. When I push, he seems to get scared and run. When theres a problem and he's upset or hurt, he cannot express it and he shuts down and runs. When he comes back, its because he's had time to cool down, think things through and we're able to talk and work things out. For me its, worth giving him another chance because I hope that each time he's learned something new and communication ability and lines will increase and he'll realize the importance of actually communicating before the fact, not after. Its taken a while, but I think it may actually be finally setting in.
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