Stilicho Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 so, yesterday i saw my ex of 2 yrs, after a month of NC. we have 2 classes together, and my plan was to avoid her as much as possible. it worked for my first class, but in my second, she straight up followed me as i left, pretended to bump into me,and goes "heyyyy! how are you? ive been thinking about you", she was also more dolled up than i had seen her in ages, and more so than she ever was at school. with her hair and make up done how i used to like, wearing clothes she bought while we shopped together. mind you, this girl cheated on me, and left for the other guy. so, as she followed me to the parking lot, she kept asking me questions, which i replied to with one word answers and no return questions. this drove her crazy. to which she would reply, im sorry, idk if u wanna talk to me yet... than say something new, mainly referencing something we did together in the past. as time wore on, it was obvious i wsnt gonna engage her. she than began asking me if we were "talking again", to which i would reply whats the point. this begn to really get to her. she asked numerous times, to which i finally said, why are you even askin me, idc anymore. visibly taken aback, she outright lies, and says, "well, im only asking you bc i feel like you approached me to talk", to which i laughed, reminding her that she followed me down the hall way and stairs, choosing to go the long way, and than bumping into me, as if on accident. basically i called her out, to which she replied with a joke, saying" well i guess i couldnt help myself" she than asked me to help her find her car, which i said she can find it, i started walking way, and she says something to get my attention, so i turn around and basically say what? im leaving.... she than stares at me for a while, says she might drop the class bc it seems hard, i tell her to do so, which seemed to shock her, than she says she felt uncomfortable, i said ok, and i left, she than goes "wait", i didnt, and she than goodnight. she has not dropped the class, and i doubt she will. if you come into contact with an ex, show no feeling, it will get to them. any body have any thoughts on what happened? i will most likely see her again tommorrow.
J0N Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Nice man. It's crazy, once it hits you that you dont care anymore, you just don't. I honestly could care less if I ever see my ex again. Glad to hear you've come around.
bslchump Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 This was actually a really nice story for me to hear right now. I feel pretty powerless in my current situation and I wish that anything I did visibly affected her. Let's hear more stories like this
screwball Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 This was actually a really nice story for me to hear right now. I feel pretty powerless in my current situation and I wish that anything I did visibly affected her. Let's hear more stories like this It's not indifference if you're trying to affect her. As to the OP - it sounds like the feelings are raw for you. Again, it doesn't seem like indifference to me. It seems like you're lashing out slightly...like if you pretend to yourself that you don't want her around, then maybe you'll eventually believe it too (fake it 'till you make it). Believe it or not, dumpers can still have feelings for you after they leave. Personally, I would have an adult conversation and calmly explain to her that you would rather have some time without interacting with her in order to feel better about yourself. I can't see anything good coming from the way things are going now. She'll probably just see you as being hostile towards her BECAUSE you aren't over her. She isn't going to read it as indifference.
Author Stilicho Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 screwball, while i respect your opinion, and am grateful for your input, i disagree. i am over her, although it took me a while, i realized that in the end she doesnt deserve me, and have moved on. i am not lashing out at her, and i didnt use any curt or nasty tone of voice when speaking to her, i just made it clear that i simply dont care anymore. trust me, i know her, and she doesn not think i am lashing out or pettiness. i dont need anything or time to feel better about myself, i did nothing wrong, she did. my ego intitially took a hit, but honestly, it has recovered and surpassed my previous level. shes an emotional child, and im done fixing her mistakes, she sees that now and doesnt like it.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 indifference is great, unless you're on the receiving end.
J0N Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I think it is really indifference when you could just totally care less what she thinks. I still think of my ex sometimes but I really just don't care what she thinks anymore. She will realize that she made the biggest mistake of her life, and what she did saved me from making the worst mistake of my life. I would only consider ever speaking to her again in a matter of life and death, nothing else. I have learned alot from this whole ordeal.
Author Stilicho Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 ^ exactly j0n, ur on the right track. think of whatever your ex did as a really f***** up favor, at least in the long run.
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