abester Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I'm at a loss, my wife and I have been having financial problems. She accepts equal blame. She said that after we get through this she wants a divorce so both will have a chance to thrive. She also loves me, wants to remain friends and even continue living together until we work through it. It hasn't been a rocky marriage or relationship and we have had problems I felt that it was our deep love that pulled us through. I erred by making one stupid statement (my dry humor), she knows that I do this. Now she has gone, in with her folks, left me hanging with the bulk of the debt of our apartment, won't speak to me on the phone. Even in emails, when I'm just trying to get info that I need she's very short and curt. She seems to be truly relishing in my pain.this is not her nature, she's kind to people. In one other break up 5 years ago, she handled it the same way (no debt problems then), made me feel as though I were hated. I can't fathom doing that to the one that I at least once loved. I love her so dearly and this just makes unbearable. Anyone have any insight as to why she needs to handle it this way. Thanks
FRDSSTR Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 She's probably just overwhelmed with emotions that she doesn't know what to do with, so she's lashing out. I once heard it said that hate is not the opposite of love. Indifference is.
Author abester Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Interesting answer. Somehow that makes me feel a little better, I don't enjoy her suffering, but at least maybe there is a reason. The situation has been compounding my misery. For the time being I'll bother her no more than needed.
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