FreeheartLover Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 (edited) So you probably all think I'm a mean girl because of some of the things I've said about my boyfriend. I think all of my complaints are justified, but perhaps I didn't explain them well enough in an unbiased, unemotional way. Because I am very emotional, I tend to focus on the negative aspects when they are so fresh in my mind. However, this past week has been a real deal-breaker for me. And I tried to end it... He was picking me up to go to an event 3 hours away, and he asked me to park my car 5 miles away to meet him in town instead of just coming to my house. I say, Why would I do that? Just come to my place. I didn't mean to sound rude, but he flew off the handle...called my tone of voice disgusting and hung up on me. I got in the car and it was tense. I asked him to stop so I could get coffee and breakfast and his reponse was a mean tirade, ending in "f*ck you." I was beside myself. I demanded that he turn around and take me home, and he refused. He took away my free will. I had no choice but to sit in the car and get cursed out. We get to the event/hotel...I'm planning on how to get out of the situation..call a friend? get a ride? I had a few options, but I held off... We talked for 2 hours and kind of made up, made nice, whatever. Fast foward to the day after, back at home from the event. He's going out for the day and I have to stay in and do homeowork. He says, Do your homework and don't jack around on facebook so we can spend time together. OK. So he leaves, or so I think, and I'm doing my work and uploading our event pics to facebook at the same time. He comes in and sees the facebook page and loses his crap again, calls me a liar, says he can't trust me, and that I'm wasting time and it's an insult to him. I finally tell him that this argument is dumb, and he storms out saying what I thought was "This relationship is over." We'd been having these arguments/talks more often over the past few weeks, so I was doubting our staying power already. This sudden break was kind of a relief to me, so I let it be. I didn't chase him. An hour later, he storms back into my apartment, into my bedroom while I'm on the phone with my mom, and just sits there. I asked him to leave so I could finish my conversation. When I'm done I ask him why he came back, and he says he doesn't know and has nothing to say. So I say it. We're done, it's over. But he won't leave. He launches into yet another hour long conversation about how we can get through this, and he's sorry about snapping, and he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, and we're stronger than this, etc, etc. He was literally on his knees trying to hug me, and I wanted none of it. I finally agree to hold off on making a do or die decision, he wouldn't leave otherwise... That was 3 days ago. He's been calling and texting and promising and everything I expected he would do. It's all gonna be better, I'm not ever going to do that to you again, you don't have to change anything, I'll just make you happy and you'll see how good I can be, and I'll be your slave for three days, just come to my place this week (I said I wanted at least a week apart) and I'll take you out and treat you right, and it's all going to be better, no stress, no tension, I'll take it all back and make it better. He's begging me to not cheat on him or talk to other guys (not that I would!), and give him another chance. Part of me was expecting this, so of couse I'm skeptical. Part of me wants to give him a second chance, but part of me is so deeply offended that I just want to forget about it all. My head and my heart are saying no, but it's fading as each day goes by. Maybe I just need time to decompress and cool off. I just won't tolerate being belittled and cursed out and have my free will taken from me. It was not OK in the least bit. We've been together for 3 months. What would you do? Edited February 1, 2011 by FreeheartLover
heartshaped Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 3 months + him being disrespectful = breakup.
Shatter3d Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 3 months + him being disrespectful = breakup. I totally agree, if he is acting like this within 3 months, imagine what he will be like in 3 years? Omg major red flags here. My advice, get out while you can and never look back. This guy has issues and you can do much better.
Questionis Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Alot of issues seem to be about him wanting you to do what he says. I'm sure he is insecure etc but seriously, he should be looking for ways to make you feel special not bad. Don't put up with it!
Author FreeheartLover Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 It's been a week since the blow out. I have not seen him since, but we've been talking and texting. I'm still upset, and I'm still skeptical and hesitant about giving him another chance. He is apologizing over and over and explaining how it'll never happen again and he's realized a bunch of things, and he's going to treat me right from now on. I don't know what I want to do.
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