crimsonskies Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 So some of you may have seen my previous post. Today is 3 weeks of NC and since the break up and its killing me. I saw him a couple of times today from afar and my friend said he looks miserable (maybe out of guilt or was feeling awkward) I miss him so much and want to get back with him, I don't want him to think that the relationship meant nothing just because I'm not contacting him. But on the other hand I think, well he's the one that broke up with me, so essentially he took the risk of me being out of his life and if he was having second thoughts he would've contacted by now. It's just frustrating.
Shatter3d Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 well he's the one that broke up with me, so essentially he took the risk of me being out of his life and if he was having second thoughts he would've contacted by now. It's just frustrating. Exactly....you need to keep saying to yourself that he wanted you out of his life, he has taken the risk of losing you forever... I understand you want him back, I also want my ex back but he threw me away like a piece of trash and wanted me out of his life. My ex also looks miserable, but you know what, bad luck !!! They made their chooice, now they have to live with it. There seriously is no point breaking NC it will set you back about 10 steps...have faith that if its meant to be, he will reach out first....and if you do want to get back together you wouldnt want to be the one making the first move right? I did that last time and fully regret it. I reached out to my ex, we got back together for 2 months only for him to break up with me again !!!! We need to be strong and have patience...I know exactly how you are feeling.
Author crimsonskies Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Thank you Shatter3d it helps to know I'm not alone. I'm going crazy. It's the first relationship where it didn't feel toxic which is why I guess it makes me harder, and I analyze everything!
JrRos Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I also wish I could talk to my ex. Yet, she wanted me out. So I have to have some respect for myself and not go chasing her. As much as I wished to be different, it takes two to tango.
Shatter3d Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I'm going crazy. Tell me about it, I'm going crazy too. You need to try and occupy your mind somehow to distract it....I've been watching sooooo many movies, painting, reading, taking dog for walk, you name it.....I must admit he still has been on my mind the whole time while doing all those things Whats your story? How long were u together? Why did he break up etc?
Author crimsonskies Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Well we live in the same town, go the same uni, it took a few months to get together he liked me and we got talking, and i just fell for him we had amazing chemistry. we were together for just over a year. Then we both got stressed from our jobs, money problems and uni and then he just became distant and broke up with me said he wasn't happy. It doesnt help that I dreamt about him wanting to get back with me.
Author crimsonskies Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 crap! now im even more closer to breaking NC as he seems to have had bad news, and I just want to say 'hope you're ok' nothing about the relationship. just to show that i care. but im in two minds about this.
z00m25 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 if he wants support make him reach out to you for it for whatever bad news he has.
Author crimsonskies Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 just to do with his studies...i guess he can deal with it. From what I can tell from facebook he seems fine now. But i'm not a cold heartless person so its just really confusing for me. I'm just all over the place. Today has been a low day, I've been thinking about the break up and what I said at the time how I hadn't been happy either but I didnt explain myself in that I was unhappy with myself not the break up....
Author crimsonskies Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 if he wants support make him reach out to you for it for whatever bad news he has. how would i make him reach out to me if we're not speaking to each other?
Author crimsonskies Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 * in that I meant i was not unhappy with the relationship not the break up which i accidentally typed
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