runforafall Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 So, just over a month since the BU and she (the dumper) has a job interview in a few days on the other side of the country for her dream job (versus the one she is currently in which she hates). She suggested meeting up a couple of weeks ago to see if things “could realistically be different” and spouted a lot of waffle that gave me the impression she was VERY confused about us, but I said that wasn’t a good idea given that she might well be moving far away soon which would make reconciliation difficult for obvious reasons. She agreed and apologised for bringing it up. Should I send her a good luck message on the day over her interview (which will be a couple of weeks since we last spoke)? I genuinely wish her the best of luck if it is something that is going to make her happy (even if it means a significantly reduced chance of reconciliation). I’m just worried if I don’t, she will think I don’t want her to succeed for selfish reasons, especially if I follow up the next week with a text to find out how she got on (so I know in my own head whether reconciliation is completely out of the window or not).
andrew23 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Everyone will tell you not to and to go NC... but i say be a gentleman and wish her the best. Just don't expect anything from it.
Renard99 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I'd say go with whatever feels best to you. If you feel that you can control your emotions, not expect anything to come from it and it'll make you feel better go for it. On the other hand, if you feel that you will worry about how she takes it or fear it'll make you think too much about her then hold off. It's tough, and as Andrew says, a lot of people will say maintain NC, but I say do what you feel is right.
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