lovetossed07 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 My relationship would not be infidelity as such since my H gave me his complete permission to pursue sexual satisfaction outside of our M. This is not for everyone, I know, but I still love H & he loves me & as he told me, "Why end our M bc I can't or don't want to, but you are suffering?" Yes, he is very liberal... But my relationship is infidelity bc my AP is in a very shaky LTR with a woman who has a mental illness. He is not M'd, but attempting to leave the R. So we need to be secretive bc of her -- too complex to explain as to why he does not leave (they own a business together for starters & it is very successful, but she stopped working a long time ago & lives on SSI & pension fund). It is an open thing, really. But my H respects my privacy -- & even hires AP for repairs. It is a civilized affair, I guess. Maybe it is not really an affair, though of course it is bc who would understand such an arrangement, even if my AP were free? It would be an OM then & they are not popular forms of relationships either... Right now, AP is separated from her, but she calls often with problems for him to solve & he kindheartedly assists her. But while he is at her house, she uses that as an opening to tell him how hurt she is, how can he do this? etc. He only helps her bc she is sick, but her family do nothing. And they were together a long time. She is on meds, I think, but her physical body is going downhill too. She drinks & that doesn't help... I never thought would have sex with anyone but H, but here it is....all affairs are not alike, just like all marriages or friendships... I love the AP though & clouds my judgment. My H reminded me recently that loving 2 men seems to have taken a bite out of me. He is right on that score. I think I will feel less conflict once he is free of GF. I know this all sounds strange... but thought I would post here with my story just for a change of pace. Probably soon my A will become an OM & will have to post elsewhere! Remember, my H is in the know so am not deceiving & do not question my H's mental health. He is the most stable, confident & generous man ever! Just guess I am busy, but am happy ... Lovetossed
PeachyPink Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Sounds like you want what you can have. I think I will feel less conflict once he is free of GF.
Recommended Posts