tigressA Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Of a woman who listed "casual sex" as something she's looking for on a dating site? It doesn't have to be the only thing listed. What would go through your mind?
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Of a woman who listed "casual sex" as something she's looking for on a dating site? It doesn't have to be the only thing listed. What would go through your mind? First thought... HPV. Second thought... not LTR material.
oaks Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Of a woman who listed "casual sex" as something she's looking for on a dating site? It doesn't have to be the only thing listed. What would go through your mind? It hasn't put me off contacting some women (so long as they're also looking for some form of Relationship), although I'm not looking for casual sex.
Gettingtired Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 1st - Slut! 2nd - Wizard's sleeve 3rd - who's next on the list of search results. But that's just me.
Seamless74 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 First thought would be that she might not be the smartest girl in the world; but id certainly give her credit for at least being honest. I mean we all know sex is the main reason anyone posts anything online.. Id appreciate that more than the hundreds of profiles of women I saw when i used to try online that all said basically the same thing I waiting for my knight in shining armor: great gonna be a long wait honey probably why your here in the first place. Or all the women that say how they love camping, football, and motorcycles: give me a break seriously if i wanted to do those things id just hang out with the boys..
carhill Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I would think it a good time to move on to the next profile
PerpetualMotion Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I don't do online dating, but if I did, I would appreciate her honesty and move on to the next profile. I have nothing against people wanting casual sex, but it's not for me.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 It means she's going to get contacted by ALOT of guys looking for the same thing, and with a little convincing on their part, they can wine and dine you and take you back to their apartments on the first date. It's good to be honest, but if you're looking for LTR, casual sex as a listing would only make less GF material to other people.
Author tigressA Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 I'm not asking for my own sake. I was just browsing some profiles a little while ago and noticed that some guys have casual sex listed in their profiles as something they're looking for, right up there with long- and short-term dating. I wondered "What would one think if a woman had that listed in her profile?" So far, the answers are what I suspected.
mo mo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I'm not asking for my own sake. I was just browsing some profiles a little while ago and noticed that some guys have casual sex listed in their profiles as something they're looking for, right up there with long- and short-term dating. I wondered "What would one think if a woman had that listed in her profile?" So far, the answers are what I suspected. It's a double standard. DUH This isn't news to you
Woggle Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 If I were looking for casual sex I would contact them. If I were not looking for it I would keep on moving. Nothing against them but it is good to seek out people who are on the same page you are. It is good to be 100% honest in a profile.
Cee Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 A woman does not need to check off casual sex to get approached for it. I cleansed my OK Cupid profile of anything that might hint of casual sex. I reanswered my questions and got the "more pure" badge. I still got approached for casual sex a lot.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 A woman does not need to check off casual sex to get approached for it. I cleansed my OK Cupid profile of anything that might hint of casual sex. I reanswered my questions and got the "more pure" badge. I still got approached for casual sex a lot. Ditto.
radiodarcy Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 A woman does not need to check off casual sex to get approached for it. I cleansed my OK Cupid profile of anything that might hint of casual sex. I reanswered my questions and got the "more pure" badge. I still got approached for casual sex a lot. i know what you mean. i did the same thing and still had guys hitting me up for sex
Author tigressA Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Cee, Paper and Radio, that doesn't really surprise me because I doubt most guys read the sections that compare your personalities and answers to match questions. I doubt many guys even read the profile essay.
SunsetRed Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Ditto for me on the casual sex and I didn't mention or imply wanting it. You don't need to put that on your profile, you'll get plenty of offers anyway.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 This would be an interesting experiment. I still have an OKC profile. It clearly says "seeing someone" at the top and I say in my profile that I'm only looking for new friendships, yet ppl still message me for romantic interest. I could always change my status (as long as my BF knew I was changing and why) and looking for and see what happens. But I'm afraid someone from my professional setting would notice and wonder what the heck was up!! lol
Author tigressA Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 I'm thinking of changing it temporarily, just as an experiment, and report back after a day or so. Good idea?
Crazy Magnet Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Good idea! I'd be interested to know. I say give it 48 hours. Count the number of "u r hot. wanna f**k?" messages. hahaha Bonus points for those who skip the email and go straight for the instant message.
Author tigressA Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Okay, I just changed it. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens. I have dates lined up for Thursday and Friday. If they see my update they're going to be disappointed by the end of the date.
pandagirl Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I met my most recent ex on Ok Cupid, and pretty much blew him off because he had included "casual sex" in his profile. I told him flat out I wasn't interested, and to move along to someone else. Well, he was persistent, we met and fell in love. Funny enough, we didn't have sex until our 9th or 10th date! He even said, "Sometimes there's just not a rush." It goes to show, that if you meet someone you really like, everything you once thought sort of goes out the window.
EricaH329 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Okay, I just changed it. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens. I'm a bit confused as to what you mean? Do you not know how most men will respond? Or are you just going to tally up the e-mails, then report back how much you've received? Either way, sounds like a bit of a waste of time. That's if you are taking this online dating thing seriously, which it seems as though you are.
musemaj11 Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I dont think women are too keen on men who put 'casual sex' on their profile either. Whats with the whining?
Author tigressA Posted February 3, 2011 Author Posted February 3, 2011 It's been 24 hours since I amended my "looking for" to include casual sex and there has been absolutely no change in overall traffic to my profile or messages received. I wonder if there will be anything noticeable over the next 24 hours.
SmileFace Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 A woman does not need to check off casual sex to get approached for it. I cleansed my OK Cupid profile of anything that might hint of casual sex. I reanswered my questions and got the "more pure" badge. I still got approached for casual sex a lot. Ha! I write in my profile "Not looking for Casual Sex" and I still got approached for casual sex. lol (this is a complete dramatization on my part) Life as we know it is a double-standard.
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