red shoes Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 what do you do to make yourself forget him? What was your experience like? Was your way successful?
depplover_1980 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Most people know alcohol and fatty food is bad for them but still choose to divulge! Perhaps you think you can change him and enjoy the challenge? You won't be able to though!
Author red shoes Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Not at all. I should have elaborated. I'm trying to forget a guy I know isn't good for me (I've stopped contact, let alone trying to change him) and have come to LS to seek advice or learn from others' experiences. Something that I can use for my situation. Thanks.
depplover_1980 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Not at all. I should have elaborated. I'm trying to forget a guy I know isn't good for me (I've stopped contact, let alone trying to change him) and have come to LS to seek advice or learn from others' experiences. Something that I can use for my situation. Thanks. You will find exactly what you are looking for in the break up section - loads of advice and people in similar positions. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/f18/
denise_xo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Not at all. I should have elaborated. I'm trying to forget a guy I know isn't good for me (I've stopped contact, let alone trying to change him) and have come to LS to seek advice or learn from others' experiences. Something that I can use for my situation. Thanks. I have a couple to choose from. One was an alcoholic. In that case, I got over it pretty quickly because the way he treated me was more painful than walking away and forgetting. It took a couple of 'incidents' to ram it home, and after that there was no turning back. In the other case, I kept thinking of him for a really long time afterwards. I think getting into a new healthy relationship was a big part of getting over that, it just placed that encounter in a very different light. Another strategy was just placing it in a long term perspective. There were so many reasons why it would probably never have lasted in the long run. Sounds like you've already done the important leg work. Good luck moving on
makelemonade1974 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Get your butt in therapy and figure out why you choose men like that. And learn what the red flags are so you don't repeat the cycle.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Get your butt in therapy and figure out why you choose men like that. And learn what the red flags are so you don't repeat the cycle. Right on! OP, the guy I think I currently like has a habit of drawing me back into the drama of things. We can go a week with no contact and then one of us will break the silence with a text. It's a cat and mouse game literally ( in fact, he likes cats and I like dogs).
Author red shoes Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 I have a couple to choose from. One was an alcoholic. In that case, I got over it pretty quickly because the way he treated me was more painful than walking away and forgetting. It took a couple of 'incidents' to ram it home, and after that there was no turning back. In the other case, I kept thinking of him for a really long time afterwards. I think getting into a new healthy relationship was a big part of getting over that, it just placed that encounter in a very different light. Another strategy was just placing it in a long term perspective. There were so many reasons why it would probably never have lasted in the long run. Sounds like you've already done the important leg work. Good luck moving on Sorry you went through all these. I like the long-term perspective idea. I have to keep reminding myself of how incompatible the guy and I will be in the long term. Hopefully I manage to get through this soon.
Author red shoes Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Right on! OP, the guy I think I currently like has a habit of drawing me back into the drama of things. We can go a week with no contact and then one of us will break the silence with a text. It's a cat and mouse game literally ( in fact, he likes cats and I like dogs). So are you still waiting for this guy? Or moving on? Speaking of animals, I've come to realize that I won't like another guy who doesn't like the same animals as I do. Never knew it mattered but it does.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 So are you still waiting for this guy? Or moving on? Speaking of animals, I've come to realize that I won't like another guy who doesn't like the same animals as I do. Never knew it mattered but it does. If I have time I would date other people, however my new puppy is already preoccupying my time as is and worrying about housebreaking a dog is more nervewrecking than whether a guy is going to call. I'm a dual cat and dog lover so I don't mind other's preference. I'm more concerned if they don't like my dog.
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