guitarguy09 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 ive done the pleading the first week and stopped when she told me i would never get her back if i kept acting desperate. Ignored her for 2 weeks. she wanted to be friends when she broke up with me. Is my ex girlfriend trying to get my attention? we were together for 2 years she loved me vice versa and she broke it off basically because she was confused and wanted to seee other people.though she did come back to me for awhile after i went NC right away. there was this guy on the back burner and just a few weeks after we broke up, theyve been seeing each other. i was really bothered at first, but then i realized what kind of a person she was.;selfish/self-centered. i went on no contact for 2 weeks. one night a friend texted me he saw her, and i ACCIDENTALLY sent it to my ex girlfriend"u sure it was her?dont think she goes out this time.?" she replied "haha!yeah that was probably me" i accidentally(have no idea why!) sent another one saying "was she with other people?" to which she replied " she was with (guys name) " it really pissed me off to have her react to me like that with ZERO respect at all. so i asked her: "really what do you want from me" and she said " Im not gonna spend my night out playing your emotional game. Goodnight. You really need to chill yo. Save some face." The nerve of some people. what does she really want from me, i didnt do anything to her aside from the usual begging after the break up then went no contact directly. Do you think she wants my attention or get me jealous since i completely ignored her for 2 weeks? we were together for two years, and were very close. i just dont get what she was trying to imply with her cold hearted reply. and its barely been a month, i doubt feelings go away that easily. 2 days after this she texted and called me to turn on the radio cause my band's song was playing. i didnt reply to this as i was asleep. then she says "im still proud of you!!" weird much
D78 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 ...and its barely been a month, i doubt feelings go away that easily. Most dumpers are already over their feelings when they break up, so there's a chance her feelings have gone away. She is dating another person already, so there's a chance she knew she wanted to date that person or was already dating that person when she broke up with you. I don't think her text was cruel. You texted her a question about her, which you meant to send to a friend. Then you followed up with another question about who she was with, which you also sent to her instead of your friend. You made it clear that more than 2 weeks after the break up, you are still following her activities and who she is with. Then, you asked her what she wanted with you? But, you were the one texting her. Put yourself in her shoes and tell me you wouldn't think the texts were part of some dumb game... I'm sorry you're going through this pain, but I don't think she is trying to get your attention by receiving texts from you. The turn on the radio thing, I'm not so sure... Good luck.
Chi townD Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 DUDE! It's pretty cut and dry that she doesn't have feelings or respect for you. Continue NC FOR YOURSELF!!!! Don't do NC thinking that not hearing from you is driving her crazy because it's pretty certain it's not. You do NC so you can heal and move on. Block her from facebook, delete her number and tell your friends that you would rather them not talk about her. You'll be better off in the long run.
Graceful Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 ive done the pleading the first week and stopped when she told me i would never get her back if i kept acting desperate. Ignored her for 2 weeks. she wanted to be friends when she broke up with me. Is my ex girlfriend trying to get my attention? No, she is not trying to get your attention, you had a miscommunication and you then pursued her with questions that only served to hurt you. Cut her loose STAT. If you don't get that her feelings could go away that fast, you have to remind yourself that she did break up with you. She is not on this board. She may not fall in love again overnight, but she has already begun to go out and see other people. You may need to take some time to yourself to get over the breakup, but don't analyze her any further. She wanted her space, she got it, now leave her alone. Block, remove, delete. Go NC and stay there. Sorry.
z00m25 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 dudeee massive choke on your part sending that to her delete her number so it doesnt happen again. shes gana pretend that shes all happy with going out and hanging out with other guys. its all an illusion, it will sink in eventually and she will reach out to you im sure. i say cut her loose tho, just focus on yourself. i am realizing this myself, how could you ever trust someone who does these thinks so quick after a break up ever again. they dont want us back why should we want them?
Author guitarguy09 Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 UPDATE! She added me on facebook and put along a little message that said " " background she blocked me on facebook less than a month ago when i was starting to annoy her w/ the desperation and and told me that i needed to TRY to move on and stop looking at her profile. why do you think she added me again? I didnt accept the request yet though. A couple of friends told me she made posts of how proud she was to hear *my bands name* on the airwaves
TheThinker Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 UPDATE! She added me on facebook and put along a little message that said " " background she blocked me on facebook less than a month ago when i was starting to annoy her w/ the desperation and and told me that i needed to TRY to move on and stop looking at her profile. why do you think she added me again? I didnt accept the request yet though. A couple of friends told me she made posts of how proud she was to hear *my bands name* on the airwaves It still seems like she is playing with your head - Are you ready for a level of contact that could hurt you again ... It would appear she has moved on if she was making posts about being with xxxxx etc ... Play her at her own game now - reject the request - block her ... Move on with your life. Take away her level of contact, delete her number. DONT BE THE DOORMAT THAT SHE WANTS YOU TO BE. Value yourself above the situation, You deserve better than the way you have been treated.
Chi townD Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 move on, move on, move on...... She jazzed that she heard you on the radio. Still doesn't change the level of disrespect she had for you.Before you press that accept button think about what she probably did with this guy later that night when accidentally contacted her. She's still probably seeing this guy. Please, go on with your life. Finda girl that's gonna respect you!
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