Jersey1985 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Hey guy's I work with his women who is 9 years older then me and I am 25. She has a 3 year old kid who I met and I adore. She just broke up with a guy 2 months ago , after a 11 year relationship. They still live together because of finances, he is acutally gone for 2 weeks and then is home for a week. She invited me over a month ago for dinner and then we did dinner a few other times. When I think it's all good and I am been really nice to her and her son. She says she needs some space. I have shown my feelings towards her, but I think she does like me but is scared of the change. Also doesn't know what she wants yet. I feel such a good attraction with her and it's tough seeing her at work. It's like liking someone you know you can't have. She may one day get back with her boyfriend, I don't know. . I don't really live in a town where there is a flock of young people.. but we do have a great connection but I am not 100 percent how she feels about me. I know she thinks I am funny and a caring guy. My question is do I wait for her to make contact with me as in ask out for coffee etc... I try to keep small talk with her now and not ask a lot but it is tough. We use to text each other and she sometimes would send a message first or sometimes I would as well. Now my plan is just to avoid that and let her contact me if she wants to talk. I am trying to just go on with my life and if she wants to see me it is in her court, I can't control what she wants or likes. Is this right approach? I don't want to give up on her but I can't put all my marbles in one basket either. Cheers :-)
Illiandra Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 she got out of a 11 year relationship the guy lives with her, she may have wanted some company to take her mind off things? not sure, casually ask how are things etc... dont text but if you see her say hi how have you been. etc. keep it casual if she was 100 over this guy then you would know. wait for her next move?
etrujillo Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 from what it sounds like to me is her situation with her son and ex isnt giving her room to maneuver. 1. You answered your own question. "she doesn't know what she wants" 2. shes will put her son before you no matter what. 3. you mentioned she lives with her ex because of finances. and maybe bringing home someone doesnt sit well with the ex? like illiandra said she may just want companionship at the moment. give her some time. and let her contact you. dont be all needy with her. she already has a child she doesn't need another one.
sammyd Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hiya, IMO your ladyfriend probably will want a break from a relationship so soon after an 11 year relationship. I wouldn't pressure her at all, and would be slightly concerned with it being so soon that you could end up being a 'rebound'. Give her space, but be supportive. She's got a lot of stress going on after the break up. I think putting all your eggs in 1 basket' would definately be the wrong thing to do, and would keep your options open:)
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