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I am in love with an engaged man. When he found out how I feel about him he said he also shared the same feeling about me but had already gotten engaged and committed himself. He said he is unsure about the future of his relationship and they have not made any concrete plans for a wedding to happen.

 

We have a short history of dating in the past. His fiancee has moved to our country to live with him. He has not given me any indication that they will break up, but from the looks of it, their relationship is on the rocks. We haven't talked since she moved in with him and I haven't made any attempts to do so, in order to respect their relationship.

 

Is the fact that he didn't leave his fiancee for me proof that I am his second choice? Or does it simply mean that he made a commitment and had to give it his best chance regardless of who came along?

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Leave him to his fiancee, will you?

 

Life is not a romantic novel.

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Is the fact that he didn't leave his fiancee for me proof that I am his second choice? Or does it simply mean that he made a commitment and had to give it his best chance regardless of who came along?

 

I'm betting on your second theory. I find it commendable you respect their relationship, despite your feelings for him.

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Is the fact that he didn't leave his fiancee for me proof that I am his second choice? Or does it simply mean that he made a commitment and had to give it his best chance regardless of who came along?

 

 

Neither. You are not his second choice, you are the side dish. Good for some fun but nothing serious.

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