ButterflyGal Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Being on my own has lead me to realise some things about life, no matter how much you dream, there's some that will never get that happy ending, or maybe it's not exactly how they invisioned obtaining that happy ending. It's hard to find that prince charming, most likely because he doesn't exist, there comes a time when you just have to settle, when you realise your less than perfect and should forgive others for their impefections too. I'm not sure how I got to this state, I never thought I was shallow or at the least not a perfectionist, but I feel im less and less content because my life is much less than perfect, I need to learn to grow, to mature, and find a way to be happy, within myself, around others and choose what kind of life i want to live, is it settling if I am happy in the end? Can I be happy in the end if I don't get my rather unrealistic dream. Hope is a powerful tool, it helps me to get through the day, but it's dangerous to rely on, when does it stop becoming hope and begin to be pure fantasy? There's so many sayings that people have, it's a big ocean, plenty of fish in the sea, you never know what tomorrow brings, I just hate playing the waiting game... and what happens if no one arrives.
january2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I suggest focusing on you. Putting yourself out there. Living your life. Trying lots of different things. Meeting lots of different people. Might as well, if you're waiting around anyway.
westrock Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 is it settling if I am happy in the end? no Can I be happy in the end if I don't get my rather unrealistic dream. A better question to ask yourself is: will I be happy in the end if I get my rather realistic dream?
starryeyed12 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 No one is perfect. True. In this case I think this quote fits nicely: Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly. -Sam Keen To me that quote means no one is going to be perfect for you in every way. But it's about asking yourself, do I understand this person? Is he or she attempting to understand me? Can I get a feel for who they are deep down inside? Can I grow with this person? Does he or she make me better? Do we want the same things out of life? Am I happy more than I am ever sad? No one is going to be perfect, including you and me. But when you understand someone, when you begin to grow and learn about each other, thats when you start seeing an imperfect person perfectly. That's essentially what love is all about. Live your life and wait for no one. The moment will come. Trust your instincts.
D78 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 ButterflyGal, "Prince Charming" isn't perfect because no one is. You might meet a guy who's perfect for you - his flaws will be flaws you can deal with, and he can deal with your flaws. Your personalities will mesh. You can have a perfect time with this imperfect person... A perfect life would be really boring. You would never be challenged by anything, so you would miss opportunities to grow. You would never have to fight for anything, because it would all fall in your lap. It feels good to appreciate the imperfections in life, especially when you can say that they are exactly what you need. As long as you are "playing the waiting game," your Mr. Perfect will stay a stranger. This is one of those laws of nature - you have to learn to be truly happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. Once you're truly happy on your own, you will not be "settling" for your next love. It will just work. And, yes there are happy endings. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
starryeyed12 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Oh, and when you are able to sit down and ask yourself those questions (and not be fearful of the answers), that's when you realize how *difficult* love and life really are. Nothing of true significance or power or beauty (like love for example) is ever easy. And it's those difficult things in life that make it messy and complicated...no where near perfect. Yet, it's also what makes things beautiful and unique. It's give and take. And anyone you think has it all and has it perfect, you don't know the whole story.
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