brneyedgrl Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I just want to get rid of this feeling of abandonment, sadness, and depression. Granted it's only been 2 weeks of NC and 3 weeks since the b/u of 6 years, but after next Tuesday we'll be through living together so maybe it'll get better then?
cerridwen Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 (edited) Everyone's different of course but here's my time line. Week 1-2 was the worst. I was weepy, would suddenly start crying AT WORK regardless of who was around, every thing reminded me of him. Week 3-6 I was pi$$ed! Kept posting angry, ugly things to LS. It helped. Week 7-9 Missed him around the holidays but it was manageable. Started laughing again. Realized there were lots of other parts of my life I'd been neglecting. Began to ACTIVELY get back in touch with things/people/activities I like. Made every effort to move on with life. Week 10-15 Very philosophical about everything. Very at peace. Have mostly let go of the anger. I'm almost to acceptance. So, to answer your question, it most certainly will get better. It's all in how you frame it. When you move out, you can either look at it as an ending and dwell on how lonely you feel, or you can see it as a beginning, a refresh. Edited February 1, 2011 by cerridwen
lululucy Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Not to be a drag, but I started all over again with the grief when he moved out. I could just picture him in all the different places, on the couch, etc etc. If you're the one moving out, I don't think it will be the same -- I spent a week housesitting for a friend and I felt wonderful. It was coming home to the empty house we'd shared that broke my heart all over again. I have faith that it will get better for you, for both of us. Only one way to go from here right?
Shatter3d Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 but after next Tuesday we'll be through living together so maybe it'll get better then? Yes, it will get easier when he moves out.. My BF broke up with me a few weeks ago and we had been living together for a year.. It was so hard to get over him amd try and move on while he was still here, but when he moved out it got that little bit easier. You will be sad for a while, but its better in the long run. It sux because we are stuck with the memories of the house we shared with them... my advise is to re-decorate. When my Ex moved out, I re-arranged the furniture, bought some new plants and just made it look a bit different to what it was...this really does help. Just take one day at a time, thats all I'm going right now. We can get through this. They left us, so now they have to live with their decision, and they may never find someone quite like us !
D78 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 brneyedgrl, I think it will start to get better once you're not living together. For me, at first it was kind of shocking and disorienting... I kept expecting him to be there, and it was really obvious that he was not going to be there. But, that feeling passed in a couple of days, and I began to feel better each day after that. Good luck.
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