Mad Max Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Over the past several weeks, I was curious as to what it's like. About two weeks ago, I signed up for POF. I have no intention of meeting anyone, I was just curious as to what it's like and who was on there. Some of the girls on there come across as normal, down to earth, and fun. But, there were also quite a few that made me go "Um okay". Quite a few made it clear from sentence one that they were not hooking up. Others said that they never thought they'd be there and some that have been burned(understandable). Perhaps this shouldn't be a shock, but I noticed that the majority of the girls were nothing special looks-wise. I guess one would assume that any halfway decent looking girl wouldn't need to go on POF or OKC. There were a few that were hot and some that were above average looking, but they are not the majority(at least from what I saw). Over the past two weeks, I've gotten alot of profile views but only two messages. I can't say my experience was negative, but I wouldn't meet anyone from there in real life. I was just curious. For those that have experience with online dating(especially the males), are my observations spot on for the most part?
phineas Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I'd say pretty much. For some LOLs do a search for athletic men to check out your competition. In my area pretty much all of them are shirtless showing off their abs. Which I guess is proof you are athletic & toned. But still, when I finish my cut i'll activate my profile again but I will not be posting shirtless pics even if you can see my abs. I'd feel like a d-bag doing that.
Author Mad Max Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 I'd say pretty much. For some LOLs do a search for athletic men to check out your competition. In my area pretty much all of them are shirtless showing off their abs. Which I guess is proof you are athletic & toned. But still, when I finish my cut i'll activate my profile again but I will not be posting shirtless pics even if you can see my abs. I'd feel like a d-bag doing that. I don't feel like I'd have any problems competing with those guys. I've probably gotten at least as many profile views as them. But I didn't post any pics of me topless. Just regular pics of me(whatever pics I have in my album here at LS is what I posted there). Funny thing is I saw a few people I know on there.
Cee Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I think it's totally cool that you aren't into online dating. But you aren't doing internet dating right now. You are lurking or browsing. But to actually do online dating, go on a date. Find a women you think is attractive and interesting and ask her out. If you think that's totally freaky, consider this. Back in the early 90s, there was no internet dating. I took out a personal ad for the hell of it. I was really scared and got a bunch of letters and voicemails. I went on one date with a guy whose voice seemed intelligent. It was pretty scary to wait at the bar for him. Turns out he was unbelievable handsome, intelligent, and decent. And natch, he wasn't keen on me. Yeah it was a fail, but I took a risk and had a new experience. Try it, Max. Just once or twice. And then you can say you did online dating.
Jannah Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 If you had no intention of meeting anyone from there in real life prior to joining and you have no intention of meeting anyone on there as of present, then what difference does it make? I am not sure why, but when I read your threads, sometimes the content comes across as condescending. But, maybe I am just reading it differently, who knows.
mo mo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Over the past several weeks, I was curious as to what it's like. About two weeks ago, I signed up for POF. I have no intention of meeting anyone, I was just curious as to what it's like and who was on there. Some of the girls on there come across as normal, down to earth, and fun. But, there were also quite a few that made me go "Um okay". Quite a few made it clear from sentence one that they were not hooking up. Others said that they never thought they'd be there and some that have been burned(understandable). Perhaps this shouldn't be a shock, but I noticed that the majority of the girls were nothing special looks-wise. I guess one would assume that any halfway decent looking girl wouldn't need to go on POF or OKC. There were a few that were hot and some that were above average looking, but they are not the majority(at least from what I saw). Over the past two weeks, I've gotten alot of profile views but only two messages. I can't say my experience was negative, but I wouldn't meet anyone from there in real life. I was just curious. For those that have experience with online dating(especially the males), are my observations spot on for the most part? You are spot on with your observations. A few years ago I had a somewhat-serious girlfriend that I met off a dating website. She was quite good looking in person, but you wouldn't have been able to tell from the pictures she had posted there. They were all crappy webcam pics that were rather dark. Somehow she still managed to get hundreds of messages a week. Online dating heavily favors women. Even the average looking ones start having delusions of grandeur as soon as they put a profile up and start getting bombarded by messages. I think the profiles where the women are making disclaimers right off the bat are quite funny actually. It's going to get to the point where you are going to have to read and sign some kind of contract before you even think about messaging them.
Author Mad Max Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 If you had no intention of meeting anyone from there in real life prior to joining and you have no intention of meeting anyone on there as of present, then what difference does it make? I am not sure why, but when I read your threads, sometimes the content comes across as condescending. But, maybe I am just reading it differently, who knows. Yeah, I'd say so.
Lovelybird Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Online is not good. it can foster lots of imagination, falsehood, and it won't let you detect the body signals and how real this person is unless you begin to date in real life right away. Even so i think it is waste of energy and emotion
Author Mad Max Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Online is not good. it can foster lots of imagination, falsehood, and it won't let you detect the body signals and how real this person is unless you begin to date in real life right away. Even so i think it is waste of energy and emotion Even in person, you often can't tell how real a person is.
deebeechrisyo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I'd say pretty much. For some LOLs do a search for athletic men to check out your competition. In my area pretty much all of them are shirtless showing off their abs. Which I guess is proof you are athletic & toned. But still, when I finish my cut i'll activate my profile again but I will not be posting shirtless pics even if you can see my abs. I'd feel like a d-bag doing that. Haha, I certainly don't have the 6-pack and muscles those guys do, but I'm fairly certain I'm way more athletic then they are. I'm sure they don't play any sports, don't train their lower body, nor do any sort of aerobic cardio. Their whole routine is hitting the pecs, biceps, triceps, and shoulders. As for online dating, I'm in a relatively small city right now and I've actually gotten a lot of messages from girls off plenty of fish. In fact, I don't think I've ever actually initiated a message with a girl. A lot of them were from really big girls, but there were definitely some hot girls who I ended up meeting. They never went anywhere serious, but it was really fun. I think I will try it out again when I move to Seattle, I browsed Seattle's girls and there were a lot of cuties on there. Just for reference, my profile is pretty ridiculous. My friend and I wrote it randomly at my apartment when we were drunk one night, which resulted in pretty much nothing of substance in there at all. It is, however, pretty hilarious. It seems to have worked though.
musemaj111 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 No homo but I like ur picture with the blue shirt max. You look like a celebrity. U don't get a lot of messages probably because the women who checked u out thought u r a player or out of their league.
welikeincrowds Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 You look like a celebrity. That's because those pictures are of a celebrity, Maxim Lapierre. But I will admit that Just regular pics of me(whatever pics I have in my album here at LS is what I posted there) is pretty confusing. I guess he's using that guy's photos for his profile pictures in POF as an experiment.
musemaj11 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 That's because those pictures are of a celebrity, Maxim Lapierre. But I will admit that is pretty confusing. I guess he's using that guy's photos for his profile pictures in POF as an experiment. I know right? So Mad Max is Maxim Lapierre or is he not? Thats the question.
Author Mad Max Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 No homo but I like ur picture with the blue shirt max. You look like a celebrity. U don't get a lot of messages probably because the women who checked u out thought u r a player or out of their league. The guy in my avatar isn't me. If you want to see what I look like, I added you to my contacts. I have my photo album set to private. is pretty confusing. I guess he's using that guy's photos for his profile pictures in POF as an experiment. I use my own pics for POF. I have Lapierre as my avatar here because he's my favorite player and I've known him since he was in juniors. So Mad Max is Maxim Lapierre or is he not? Thats the question. If I was really Lapierre, my English wouldn't be this good.
mo mo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 No homo but I like ur picture with the blue shirt max. You look like a celebrity. U don't get a lot of messages probably because the women who checked u out thought u r a player or out of their league. Are women really like that? I went out with one chick that I met off OKC and she playfully mentioned something about me being a player, but I thought that was an isolated incident.
musemaj11 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Are women really like that? I went out with one chick that I met off OKC and she playfully mentioned something about me being a player, but I thought that was an isolated incident. Women in general dont even make a move on uglier guys, let alone guys who are more attractive than them.
Emilia Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I noticed that the majority of the girls were nothing special looks-wise. I guess one would assume that any halfway decent looking girl wouldn't need to go on POF or OKC. There were a few that were hot and some that were above average looking, but they are not the majority(at least from what I saw). Over the past two weeks, I've gotten alot of profile views but only two messages. I can't say my experience was negative, but I wouldn't meet anyone from there in real life. I was just curious. For those that have experience with online dating(especially the males), are my observations spot on for the most part? you received a lot of profile views because you were a newbie and people are sick of looking at the same faces. the fact that you only got two messages indicates that the women feel the same way about you as you feel about them
Emilia Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I don't feel like I'd have any problems competing with those guys. :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:
alexlakeman Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 You actually have to pick up the phone,talk to someone, and go on a date, to really say how online dating is...
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Over the past several weeks, I was curious as to what it's like. About two weeks ago, I signed up for POF. I have no intention of meeting anyone, I was just curious as to what it's like and who was on there. Some of the girls on there come across as normal, down to earth, and fun. But, there were also quite a few that made me go "Um okay". Quite a few made it clear from sentence one that they were not hooking up. Others said that they never thought they'd be there and some that have been burned(understandable). Perhaps this shouldn't be a shock, but I noticed that the majority of the girls were nothing special looks-wise. I guess one would assume that any halfway decent looking girl wouldn't need to go on POF or OKC. There were a few that were hot and some that were above average looking, but they are not the majority(at least from what I saw). Over the past two weeks, I've gotten alot of profile views but only two messages. I can't say my experience was negative, but I wouldn't meet anyone from there in real life. I was just curious. For those that have experience with online dating(especially the males), are my observations spot on for the most part? That is fairly similar to my experience. I was actually trying to date though. I received about 1 message a day from women. I would say 50% of those were either morbidly obese or otherwise unattractive. The other 50% I chatted with regularly. Of those over about 5 month period I dated 8 different women. None worked out. However, of those 8 women I am actually still friends with 2. The other 6 are just crazy date stories. Including one woman that literally tried to pull me into her car and take me back to her place. She actually ripped my shirt trying to pull me in.
GivenUp0083 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 (edited) Online dating is definitely an experience, although I never resorted to POF as I thought the site looked really trashy. There's other free or cheaper dating sites out there. As for your generalization, sure there's some truths, but if your analysis (that you've concluded with no personal experience) was in fact spot on, how do you explain people who are so very happy to have met their current significant others from online dating? One of my best friends met his girl on match.com, they're getting married next spring and they are perfect for each other. I dated online for a year and a half, I had just as many struggles as others claim to have, it was even very stressful on me. But I stuck with it, took a break here and there to gather and develop myself, learn from my experiences, and I met a wonderful girl. Her pictures were okay, not webcam-ish but no body shots...we talked on the phone a while, met up and she was gorgeous. We've been together a few months now and things are great. We get along so well and the sex is amazing. I feel that people view online dating as a "desperate attempt" or "quick fix" to finding someone. That's not the case, the same rules apply to meeting someone on a day to day basis. You put yourself out there to try and get to know someone and you could get shot down. You ask for their number and talk on the phone. You ask them for a date, meet up. You keep going with them if there's chemistry. If you're not feeling it then you don't. The only difference that online dating provides is that you have an opportunity to meet someone you would never otherwise cross paths with. Edited February 1, 2011 by GivenUp0083
Cee Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I appreciate Max's consistent dislike of online dating. I think he's absolutely right, but if he wants to experience online dating, he'll have to suffer through dates like the rest of us. My failed experience with online dating has really opened my eyes. It not only takes the mystery and romance out of dating, it also fosters unhealthy behavior and objectification. Now I am so much more appreciative of non-online based dating again. It is so much more fun to meet someone at a social event and flirt. I can get to know a man much better by talking to him in 30 minutes than reading a profile and emailing back and forth. And his lack of interest and unavailability is much easier to detect.
carhill Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I can't say my experience was negative, but I wouldn't meet anyone from there in real life. I was just curious. For those that have experience with online dating(especially the males), are my observations spot on for the most part?IME, of the dozens of real women I've met since beginning to online date back in 1996, all were/are just regular people. 'Online' was just an efficient method of meeting presumably single people in my area. I never built up 'online' relationships with them, rather, if we both indicated mutual interest, requested to meet in real life ASAP. That's how it went with my now exW, whom I met online back in 1999. A couple weeks of occasional e-mails about 'stuff', then lunch on a rainy day, for which she was late Normal human interaction. I also met another lady this way, who remains a friend to this day, who happens to live about 6000 miles away in Lviv, UA. We've seen each other a number of times over the years, both before and after I was married. Online is a great way to make friends too, all over the world. Online is a *tool*. Good luck and let us know how the dates go.
Author Mad Max Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 you received a lot of profile views because you were a newbie and people are sick of looking at the same faces. the fact that you only got two messages indicates that the women feel the same way about you as you feel about them I've seen new faces and I didn't check out the profile if they weren't attractive.
depplover_1980 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Max do you think you'd be up for giving 2 dates a go as a social experiment and report back how you got on? For instance did they look anything like their pics (I have been very disappointed by this before), were they more/less interesting than their profiles and genuinely whether you had a good time. I would be interested in reading it.
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