September Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 2 weeks ago, I was still pining for my xMM. 10 days ago, I met a wonderful, gorgeous, funny SINGLE man. I feel like I have known him forever. I am on cloud nine! I didn't think it was ever possible to move on from xMM but since meeting him, I have hardly given x any thought. He makes me feel so HAPPY. I told him everything straight up about my A as I didn't want to get further down the track, establish feelings for him then tell him only to have him reconsider us because of it or for keeping it from him. How wonderful it is to go out and not look over your shoulder for fear of being caught. Holding hands and cuddling in public, I do love that freedom. Ohhhhh, I am in Lust....:love:
woinlove Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Oh, lust is wonderful! And lust you don't have to hide is the most wonderful! I know some feel it is best to give a good gap between R's, but I think it is always very special when you connect positively and openly, on an intimate level, with another person. Hey, maybe he won't be "the one", but who knows? Maybe he will be. If you are happy and he treats you well, that all sounds wonderful. Enjoy!
Author September Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Wonderful to hear September. You deserve it. Thank you..
woinlove Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Rereading my post above, I didn't mean for it be qualified. Another thread is discussing whether it is good to get involved with someone new in order to get over MM and I was one of the ones saying, if you can open you heart to someone new, then you are ready. Sorry, if those jumbled thoughts came out in my post above which was meant to be a hearty congratulations for finding someone special (and available!) to you.
Author September Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Oh, lust is wonderful! And lust you don't have to hide is the most wonderful! I know some feel it is best to give a good gap between R's, but I think it is always very special when you connect positively and openly, on an intimate level, with another person. Hey, maybe he won't be "the one", but who knows? Maybe he will be. If you are happy and he treats you well, that all sounds wonderful. Enjoy! Thank you and Yes, Loving the lust! I haven't had anything to do with xMM for over a year now so hopefully I am in the right frame of mind for a new relationship. I think loneliness can contribute to keeping people stuck with feelings and thoughts of xAP. Since meeting him, I have barely had time to think of him. Yes, he treats me well, spoils me, is really affectionate, makes me laugh so much and it is wonderful. We are both taking it one day at a time and enjoying the ride.
half_ofa_heart Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Rereading my post above, I didn't mean for it be qualified. Another thread is discussing whether it is good to get involved with someone new in order to get over MM and I was one of the ones saying, if you can open you heart to someone new, then you are ready. Sorry, if those jumbled thoughts came out in my post above which was meant to be a hearty congratulations for finding someone special (and available!) to you. hahaha WIL, that was my thread and I'm very curious to see the difference in opinions here vs. on my thread. I did get a lot from my thread and I'd have to agree with you that if your heart is open to someone new, then it can't be anything but good. But if one is still "pining" for MM/MW then one will most likely compare new person to them therefore not see them as a whole. At least, that's what I got out of my thread. Congrats September, I am very happy for you.
BB07 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Good for you September! I'm happy for you! Ya know.........I'm always happy when a woman who has been hurting because of a bad relationship choice gets out from under it.
whichwayisup Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Congrats September! Enjoy the lust! The firsts of it all, the kissing, making out, holding hands, blushing.. Glad to hear that you've met someone available that makes your heart pitter patter! Timing is everything and it seems this fella is a godsend to you!
woinlove Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Thank you and Yes, Loving the lust! I haven't had anything to do with xMM for over a year now so hopefully I am in the right frame of mind for a new relationship. I think loneliness can contribute to keeping people stuck with feelings and thoughts of xAP. Since meeting him, I have barely had time to think of him. Yes, he treats me well, spoils me, is really affectionate, makes me laugh so much and it is wonderful. We are both taking it one day at a time and enjoying the ride. A year is a long time! Ignore all my stuff about timing (obviously another thread on my mind). Clearly, a year was the right time for you to open yourself up to a new special connection. Just shows, one can still pine a bit and yet be really ready to move on.
woinlove Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 hahaha WIL, that was my thread and I'm very curious to see the difference in opinions here vs. on my thread. I did get a lot from my thread and I'd have to agree with you that if your heart is open to someone new, then it can't be anything but good. But if one is still "pining" for MM/MW then one will most likely compare new person to them therefore not see them as a whole. At least, that's what I got out of my thread. Congrats September, I am very happy for you. Yes, but maybe September shows you that not ALL the pining has to be completely done. A bit can still be there, but, nevertheless, you are ready to move on, and then someone special comes along and pining is history!
Author September Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 A year is a long time! Ignore all my stuff about timing (obviously another thread on my mind). Clearly, a year was the right time for you to open yourself up to a new special connection. Just shows, one can still pine a bit and yet be really ready to move on. I didn't take your comments the wrong way at all and appreciate your thoughts regardless As I stated above, I do think that being lonely and missing all of the affection shared with the xAP can keep you wading in the memories, keeping the pining alive. I think for me, it hurt so much because he had moved on with his life, went home and had someone to share things with. even if it has been hard for them, he still had someone to go to bed with each night. Loneliness can be awful! Since meeting him, I'm not lonely...
whichwayisup Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 enjoying the ride. :bunny::bunny: My mind "went" there. I think loneliness can contribute to keeping people stuck with feelings and thoughts of xAP. I agree. That and not keeping busy, whether it be spending time with friends, family, or just getting out there and living life, enjoying hobbies etc.. Work is work.
bentnotbroken Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 2 weeks ago, I was still pining for my xMM. 10 days ago, I met a wonderful, gorgeous, funny SINGLE man. I feel like I have known him forever. I am on cloud nine! I didn't think it was ever possible to move on from xMM but since meeting him, I have hardly given x any thought. He makes me feel so HAPPY. I told him everything straight up about my A as I didn't want to get further down the track, establish feelings for him then tell him only to have him reconsider us because of it or for keeping it from him. How wonderful it is to go out and not look over your shoulder for fear of being caught. Holding hands and cuddling in public, I do love that freedom. Ohhhhh, I am in Lust....:love: May I ask you how you felt telling him about your past? Were you nervous that he wouldn't hear you out?
awkward Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 September, Thanks for sharing your wonderful news. I think this is just what you needed.
Ellin Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Hi, Spetember, I'm so happy for you. I've always thought you're a lovely person and you deserve good stuff. Keep us updated.
Author September Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 May I ask you how you felt telling him about your past? Were you nervous that he wouldn't hear you out? Hi Bent! No, I wasn't nervous at all. When we met, we sat there and talked for 7 hours about everything. It was really important for me to be clear and up front straight away. That way, he could make a decision as to whether he wanted to see me again. He did want to see me again and so the next night, he took me to an amazing restaurant. The topic came up briefly at dinner but it wasn't uncomfortable or weird. I suppose he was curious but doesn't appear fazed by it. We have spent most evenings together since that night and it hasn't been brought up again. If he wants to know anything more, I am more than happy to answer his questions. But as he said to me, the past is past, lets just enjoy the future. Only time will tell if it becomes an issue and we will have to deal with it then, one day at a time...
Author September Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Hi, Spetember, I'm so happy for you. I've always thought you're a lovely person and you deserve good stuff. Keep us updated. Thank you, I will...
bentnotbroken Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Hi Bent! No, I wasn't nervous at all. When we met, we sat there and talked for 7 hours about everything. It was really important for me to be clear and up front straight away. That way, he could make a decision as to whether he wanted to see me again. He did want to see me again and so the next night, he took me to an amazing restaurant. The topic came up briefly at dinner but it wasn't uncomfortable or weird. I suppose he was curious but doesn't appear fazed by it. We have spent most evenings together since that night and it hasn't been brought up again. If he wants to know anything more, I am more than happy to answer his questions. But as he said to me, the past is past, lets just enjoy the future. Only time will tell if it becomes an issue and we will have to deal with it then, one day at a time... I was curious because we all have something in our past that aren't sure how others will receive it. I wondered how do you tell somethings that you have grown from but you know others may find a bit much. I believe in honest in a relationship but still telling it seems a bit daunting. Thank you for the honest answers and I wish you well in your new relationship.
BB07 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I was curious because we all have something in our past that aren't sure how others will receive it. I wondered how do you tell somethings that you have grown from but you know others may find a bit much. I believe in honest in a relationship but still telling it seems a bit daunting. Thank you for the honest answers and I wish you well in your new relationship. This makes me hyperventilate just thinking about it, IF I ever get intimately involved again, for many reasons. I'm ashamed, embarrassed, and let's not forget this one........you DIDN'T KNOW. Can I just keep hiding under my rock?
Duckduckgoose Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 If he wants to know anything more, I am more than happy to answer his questions. But as he said to me, the past is past, lets just enjoy the future. Nice! I wish more men would be like this! And congratulations on finding a good one!
SunsetRed Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I've met a single guy as well, and it's helping me put my relationship w xMM in perspective. One great thing about Single Guy (SG) is that we have taken couples pics of each other, lol and we're not even a couple yet. We just have some pics of us together which is something MM wouldn't allow. We don't have any certain areas of our metro area that we have to avoid and we can go anywhere and do anything. Its great to feel like I'm not second runner up in his life.
Mimolicious Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 2 weeks ago, I was still pining for my xMM. 10 days ago, I met a wonderful, gorgeous, funny SINGLE man. I feel like I have known him forever. I am on cloud nine! I didn't think it was ever possible to move on from xMM but since meeting him, I have hardly given x any thought. He makes me feel so HAPPY. I told him everything straight up about my A as I didn't want to get further down the track, establish feelings for him then tell him only to have him reconsider us because of it or for keeping it from him. How wonderful it is to go out and not look over your shoulder for fear of being caught. Holding hands and cuddling in public, I do love that freedom. Ohhhhh, I am in Lust....:love:' Hope that little lady bug turns into a love bug for you! *does the September dance* Happy for you September! You deserve to be on that cloud and the right way. Drama free! Embrace it and enjoy it!
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