darran Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 So today is officially my first day of proper No contact. I think I have worn myself out. My ex and I have been chatting... again... did I listen to the advice given here? In a way I did but I don't think I actually adhered to it. Unfortunately that was a very SILLY mistake. I think all I can say is that no matter what your heart tries to tell you actions definitely speak louder than words. I feel like an idiot. But I suppose, it's not the first time I've broke up with someone and I am sure it wont be the last. Ah well... here I go for another try at NC. For my own sanity I know I have to never allow breadcrumbs to rule my thought process. If my ex wants to come back she would make it bloody clear as day! Why the hell did I not just do this ages ago. I'm tired, emotionally drained and feel like a twat!
Nick71 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Take it easy Darren although may I officially join the twat bandwagon :/ I went straight into NC from the letter that delivered the news to me. But I held it all in for 7 days & then on Saturday when I let the demons out they were going for the throat. I've never been like that in my life, I'm ashamed & expect that even if there was the remotest chance of her coming back that sealed its fate. In just the last hour I have deleted both her & her mother's numbers from my phone as I could feel the desperation to call building again. I'd already deleted the facebook, the photos, the email, the skype but had kept the phone numbers 'just in case' & then when I broke I abused them to the fullest. There's a way through this, I just can't quite see it yet :/
Author darran Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 yea man... its SO EASY to get sucked in to an endless cycle of NC / Breaking NC just because we "think" something is different. reality is... if the ex wants another go at something I suppose it will be pretty much advertised openly and without misunderstanding. I have now realised after my 4th rel that all break ups are pretty much the same. You break up... one is dumped the other does the dumping. One wants what the other doesn't, then one thinks what the other is giving is all pointing towards making up but 99% of the time it doesn't and only leads to a bloody cess pit of emotional mayhem! Whereas had we just went NC from day dot all this nonsense would never have happened in the first place!!! I'm sure there are plenty of us on the "twat" band wagon... at least feel like it anyway! hope all is well with you bro!
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Twats United. I'm not a twat, but I was dumped then broke NC to try and negotiate new terms of seeing each other, to which I recieved yesterday and thought 'ERM NO' so told him to do one. Now I have a new date Thursday! Let's forget about these losers!!
Author darran Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 hmmm... what a strange turn of events. I got an email. She is done with this guy. She finished it... think its come a bit too late. NC - didn't reply
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 hmmm... what a strange turn of events. I got an email. She is done with this guy. She finished it... think its come a bit too late. NC - didn't reply Good for you Darran!
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