heartbeats4u Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I fear that they are foreshadows to an end, but then others believe that they show two lovers care. I don't know how to perceive them. If they're not frequent, is it okay to argue and resolve them occasionally?
zengirl Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Arguments and disagreements are a part of relationships. Now, they don't need to be big, flashy, and certainly not violent, but people are going to get their feelings hurt and clash and disagree sometimes. I just think it's a natural part of human interaction, when you spend enough time, and have high enough stakes with someone. If they are really frequent, or always about the same unresolved issue, or violent in any way, those would be bad signs.
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Couples who 'never argue' are either lying or heading nowhere. You need arguments/debates to educate each other about your views, ideas and beliefs. It is a sign you are both strong individuals and can help you respect each other if you play fairly. Playing fairly means listening to each other and not screaming at each other. Also the ability to admit when your partners view about something is actually stronger is a great trait to have too.
GivenUp0083 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 What do arguments really mean? I think they mean when people don't agree on something and they aren't getting along. Usually one does something the other doesn't like or one wants the other to do something that they won't do. I've been with my girl 5 weeks, we haven't had an argument yet
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 What do arguments really mean? I think they mean when people don't agree on something and they aren't getting along. Usually one does something the other doesn't like or one wants the other to do something that they won't do. I've been with my girl 5 weeks, we haven't had an argument yet Yeah you don't tend to argue in the stage you think the others perfect!!
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Every LONG TERM relationship will experience conflict. Whether that conflict is revealed as an argument or a mere disagreement (I think the two differ in terms of severity) depends on the person. IMO, conflict is not only normal, but a healthy part of a relationship, depending on how it's handled. Arguments, on the other hand, at least repeated arguments dealing with the same underlying issues, are a bigger sign of trouble. Yeah you don't tend to argue in the stage you think the others perfect!! Agreed! And if you're arguing during the first few months, during what is supposed to be the honeymoon period, your relationship probably has some serious problems already!
threebyfate Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I fear that they are foreshadows to an end, but then others believe that they show two lovers care. I don't know how to perceive them. If they're not frequent, is it okay to argue and resolve them occasionally?If people are constantly arguing, there's more than likely some serious issues happening, they're arbitrarian or drama queens. If people are arguing infrequently and the issues get resolved and permanently laid to rest, this is about as healthy a relationship as you can get. It's good to disagree and work things out sometimes, especially at the beginning of the relationship. If people wait until after they get married or worse yet, have children and then realize they have differing values, Holy Dinah, you're asking for some serious unhappiness.
Lauriebell82 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Arguments are part of a healthy relationship. Now, couples who fight constantly possibly aren't right for each other and it would probably put a huge strain on the relationship. I do know couples who fight all the time, but stay together. I would think eventually that would get old, but I guess some couples can deal with it and be happy. I agree with the honeymoon stage being the period of time where arguments probably shouldn't occur. Usually people start to show their "true colors" after a few months. I don't necessarily agree that it spells trouble for the relationship if same arguments occur several times...it just means that you need to come up with a better and more productive solution to the problem. My husband and I have had "the same arguments" before we came up with a solution that worked..and we are very happy. Now, if you are having the same argument over and over and over again and the issue NEVER gets resolved, then that's a different story. There is always a fine line.
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