denise_xo Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I think you look better with them. That was my reaction, too. He looks more 'man-like' and less 'boyish' with them, I like that.
PerpetualMotion Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I think it's normal not to like wearing new glasses at first. Every time I changed to a new pair of glasses, although I liked them, I didn't like to see them on my face, but that felling always changed with time. You have to give some time to get used to the new look.
Author Ross PK Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 So do I look good in a 'aw, isn't he sweet but I wouldn't date him and can't see many women wanting to date him' kind of way? Or do I look good in a 'He's actually attractive and I'd date him' kind of way?
Emilia Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 What a load of balls. You see people that look sexy in glasses all the time. I said 90% of people don't look good in glasses and that's true. really hot ones with amazing bone structure do, the rest of us should stick to contact lenses
Emilia Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 So do I look good in a 'aw, isn't he sweet but I wouldn't date him and can't see many women wanting to date him' kind of way? Or do I look good in a 'He's actually attractive and I'd date him' kind of way? glasses don't help you get laid
BettyBoop Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 So do I look good in a 'aw, isn't he sweet but I wouldn't date him and can't see many women wanting to date him' kind of way? Or do I look good in a 'He's actually attractive and I'd date him' kind of way? Just based on those two photos -no, I would not date you. Is it because I don't think you look attractive? No. It is because I don't know anything about the real you. If you approached me in school/work/a bar and gave me a compliment and made me smile/laugh I would definately go out on a date with you based on your looks on that photo. Attractiveness is soooooooo much more than looks! I wish men with low self-esteem would understand that...
Author Ross PK Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Well, I look so much better and feel so much better now I've got my hair cut, which was way overdue. The glasses now seem to not look as bad on me, but I still don't like the way they make me look. (kind of like a boring sensible bookworm 40 year old). Without specs http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5173/5408119066_45cc8fab58_b.jpg With specs http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5176/5408119120_f92dc27889_b.jpg
Eeyore79 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Attractiveness is soooooooo much more than looks! I wish men with low self-esteem would understand that... I agree 100% - I would never date someone just based on looks. Good looks might catch my interest initially, but would have to be backed up with intelligence and kindness or I'd lose interest. Someone could equally catch my attention with a nice fun personality as with a pretty face, but a pretty face is more obvious, whereas a guy has to make a little more effort to get to know me in order for me to be attracted by his personality. I'm madly in love with my boyfriend, but when I first met him I wasn't attracted to him because (to be blunt) he's fairly average looking. It wasn't until I got to know his personality that I began to feel extremely attracted to him; we get on amazingly well and I wouldn't trade him for even the most physically beautiful man in the world
Gypsy_Soul Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Well I'm biased. I have a thing for guys that wear glasses. I've always been attracted to that smart look.
alphamale Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 no, i think you look great as well as more intellectual
Author Ross PK Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Just based on those two photos -no, I would not date you. Is it because I don't think you look attractive? No. It is because I don't know anything about the real you. If you approached me in school/work/a bar and gave me a compliment and made me smile/laugh I would definately go out on a date with you based on your looks on that photo. Attractiveness is soooooooo much more than looks! I wish men with low self-esteem would understand that... Usually there needs to be physical attraction there though. Especially in the first place, because that's why people go on dates. They both find each other physicaly attractive and so would like to get to know each other more. Most people wouldn't go on a date with someone who they don't find attractive.
green_tea Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Usually there needs to be physical attraction there though. Especially in the first place, because that's why people go on dates. They both find each other physicaly attractive and so would like to get to know each other more. Most people wouldn't go on a date with someone who they don't find attractive. Yes but you can't base it purely on a photo, you need more than that to go on to say whether you would go out with them. Many people are just "average" looking but have something about them that makes people want to be around them. That doesn't come through in a photo. You have nothing to worry about in the looks department at all.
meyou Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 I agree with the people who quote statistics as their argument. Most people don't wear glasses and most people are not attracted to them. If I was you, I would find a really cute girl you can trust and ask her to style you, go to the gym, study some cool dudes from TV and read some good stuff on attracting women. I guess you are looking for girls as you posted on the dating forum. You'd be amazed how different you will feel about yourself when you up your appearance and that is something we all have to do all the time. It isn't about other people, it is about respect for yourself ;-)
Author Ross PK Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 I've already upped my appearance. It's just the glasses which are a downgrade.
Chocolat Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 Usually there needs to be physical attraction there though. Especially in the first place, because that's why people go on dates. They both find each other physicaly attractive and so would like to get to know each other more. Most people wouldn't go on a date with someone who they don't find attractive. But you are omitting the part of "attractive" that comes from personality. How a guy approaches me -- his tone of voice, his smile, his banter, etc. -- all factor into whether I find him attractive. Then there is how he's dressed, how he carries himself, etc. Attraction is comprised of 100's of tiny details. At least, that's how it is for me. I've been attracted to guys who were not the least bit conventionally handsome, and I have been unattracted to guys who were. Why? Because one of those 100's of other things was off (or on!). Your face is fine, your pictures are fine, your glasses are fine.
denise_xo Posted February 2, 2011 Posted February 2, 2011 But you are omitting the part of "attractive" that comes from personality. How a guy approaches me -- his tone of voice, his smile, his banter, etc. -- all factor into whether I find him attractive. Then there is how he's dressed, how he carries himself, etc. Attraction is comprised of 100's of tiny details. At least, that's how it is for me. I've been attracted to guys who were not the least bit conventionally handsome, and I have been unattracted to guys who were. Why? Because one of those 100's of other things was off (or on!). Your face is fine, your pictures are fine, your glasses are fine. Agree with this and green tea. I never feel 'attraction' based on a picture. Doesn't work that way, even if they're 'model pretty' or whatever.
Author Ross PK Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Great News! It looks like I wont have to wear glasses permenantly. When I saw the optician again, she said the thing on my eye had gone down, and it was probably caused by the combination of wearing contacts and having dry eyes. She said I can start wearing them again, and a good idea would be to use eye drops once a day, and whenever they might feel irrated by the contacts, to stop my eyes from being too dry. So hopefully, that thing wont get worse again.
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