recuerdeme Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Quick recap. Almost 2 years with boyfriend. About 4~ months ago he decides to go back to Mexico to "take care" of his ailing mother. We decide to make a go of LDR problems persisted with him partying, drinking all the time, having no time for me, always pushing me aside, not even a Xmas card let alone a gift this last Christmas... etc and then he decides to end it. Well as stated in my first post here when we drove to Mexico back in the end of September we had an Accident and since that first trip my Land Rover has been in a Mexican body shop... and it is finally ready! Unfortunately my relationship has died but I still think about him pretty much everyday. Even though he treated me badly and didn't appreciate me I still loved him more than anyone else I'd ever been with. Now this month I plan to fly down to get my Rover and drive back and those feelings for him are driving me crazy. I know it would be crazy to want to get back with him let alone be the one to initiate some kind of reconciliation. I always gave in in the relationship he never really tried or put forth much effort. But maybe this time of non communication... we haven't talked in like 2 weeks, has made him see the light!?! Or maybe it's just wishful thinking I feel like I should at least contact him while there in his city I mean I do feel kind of nervous being there alone and driving in Mexico alone. Or should I just let it be... I mean he real was a huge jerk to me... Also there's a guy that really is smitten with me and I feel like he could be great for me, but still my heart seems to belong to the ex...
aerogurl87 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 The heart is treacherous, go with your head and you will be much happier in the end. Believe me, being with someone you are madly in love with who treats you like crap may make you happy at first. But once the initial "honeymoon" love stage fades and your left with day to day life, everything he did will start to become more in focus and you'll start to resent him and wish you'd never went back to him. Plus he doesn't deserve you. He didn't appreciate you, so go find someone else who will.
folieadeux Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I wouldn't waste anymore time on this guy. Pick up your car and drive back without contact. He's done nothing since you broke up to deserve it.
Lucky_One Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 But maybe this time of non communication... we haven't talked in like 2 weeks, has made him see the light!?! Or maybe it's just wishful thinking Wishful thinking. Go get your car and come home. Ask a friend to go with you if you are that nervous about driving back alone. You don't sound nearly ready to start a new R with someone who is smitten with you. If you care about the new guy at all, don't start dating him when you are still hung up on someone else; he doesn't deserve to be strung along.
Author recuerdeme Posted February 3, 2011 Author Posted February 3, 2011 You all are probably right. I should really put a pause on watching romantic movies that are filling my head up with happy endings... [sigh] But I'm just a hopeless romantic and I just still can't wrap my head around why he changed and why he would treat me the way that he did and why he didn't put forth an effort... The WHYs are killing me more than anything.
folieadeux Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 You all are probably right. I should really put a pause on watching romantic movies that are filling my head up with happy endings... [sigh] But I'm just a hopeless romantic and I just still can't wrap my head around why he changed and why he would treat me the way that he did and why he didn't put forth an effort... The WHYs are killing me more than anything. Unfortunately sometimes you don't get an answer other than the fact that he's a douche. That should be motivation enough for you to leave. You deserve so much better.
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