gromit Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Grrr, last weekend I've seen my ex again after months of NC (except for arranging me picking up my stuff), it wasn't supposed to happen, but it did. Now since I've left again she's constantly texting me with silly things like "hi, there's some post that arrived for for you. think about you a lot, wish it was still last weekend..X" WTF?? I wasn't even registered there, so it can't be anything important. What is she trying to accomplish? (she broke up with me by the way) I haven't replied to it yet, but I've said to her before (when she asked why i didn't reply and I seemed so cold) that I don't feel much for being her support while she's waiting for the next guy to come along. I find it hard not to respond to it, damm...
bubbles5 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 She wants to talk to you thats y she is doing all this things. Prolly earlier she moved u out of house may b cos she was angry over something. Though its not a nice way to treat you in this way.You can tell her that she cannot treat you in an inapppropriate way.Just ask her why she is doing all this texting if you have broken up.Also tell her that she need not have to play around with your feelings.If ur ex still wants u back in ur life then tell her to treat you in proper way.
Author gromit Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Thanks. She broke up with me because she couldn't cope with me being depressed anymore, which is a valid reason IMHO. I've tackled that and got myself back together, new awesome job and all that. (the **** job i've been doing for the last year played a big part in my depression) When I saw her last weekend, she seemed to try really hard to convince me how great her life has become since I left, and now she's telling me she's missing me? It's hard knowing what to say, of course I'd go back in a heartbeat (if I wasn't 2500km away :-) But she has to stay off my back and let me heal if she really cares. I'll give it another day to think about..
dng Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Grrr, last weekend I've seen my ex again after months of NC (except for arranging me picking up my stuff), it wasn't supposed to happen, but it did. Now since I've left again she's constantly texting me with silly things like "hi, there's some post that arrived for for you. think about you a lot, wish it was still last weekend..X" WTF?? I wasn't even registered there, so it can't be anything important. What is she trying to accomplish? (she broke up with me by the way) I haven't replied to it yet, but I've said to her before (when she asked why i didn't reply and I seemed so cold) that I don't feel much for being her support while she's waiting for the next guy to come along. I find it hard not to respond to it, damm... Lack of empathy and lack of respect for what you asked.
Author gromit Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 So with a bleeding heart I've asked her (politely) to stop contacting me, and give me the time I need to stop being in love, and start seeing her as a friend, if that's even possible. It's hurting terribly already, because now I'm wondering if I just ruined the only chance of getting back together (I know that's not what I should be thinking), but I know I needed to do this to be able to heal properly. It ****ing hurts though...
Lauriebell82 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Thanks. She broke up with me because she couldn't cope with me being depressed anymore, which is a valid reason IMHO. I've tackled that and got myself back together, new awesome job and all that. (the **** job i've been doing for the last year played a big part in my depression) When I saw her last weekend, she seemed to try really hard to convince me how great her life has become since I left, and now she's telling me she's missing me? It's hard knowing what to say, of course I'd go back in a heartbeat (if I wasn't 2500km away :-) But she has to stay off my back and let me heal if she really cares. I'll give it another day to think about.. Well she doesn't care (in the way you want her to) obviously, or else she wouldn't have broken up with you. So it's going to up to you to be strong and avoid her. You can't control her actions, she will continue to play games with you. Please don't count on getting back with her either. Go back to NC. Do not respond to her texts, calls, ect. Block her on facebook if you have it. I know it's difficult to stay away, but that is the ONLY way you are going to get over her. Please do NOT see her as a friend!!!
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