pandagirl Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Why, oh why... Today was a strange day. Really missed my ex, but also set up a date with a guy -- my first since the breakup five months ago -- which made me feel good about moving on. Anyway, tonight I got a text from him again... I won't go too much into the details, but it basically was about an inside joke we had together. I don't know what to do. When I heard from him on NYE it was easier to handle because it seemed like a holiday one-off. With this last contact, I'm just... I'm frustrated with him that he can't effectively communicate with me in a mature manner. I don't think he's playing games with me; he's not that sort of person. I know be just probably misses me and wants to talk to me, but he can't be direct like that -- he hides his feelings. I'm tempted to just say: "If you want to talk to me, just call me..." but that seems a little unnecessary at this stage. I'm open to communicating with him, but not when it's obvious that he *can't*. Of course, this is complicated by the fact that a part of me is still in love with him.
tigressA Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Why are you open to communicating with him? What's there to gain from that? I wouldn't respond. If you respond it'll send you into a needless tizzy and you'll be even more down, particularly if he doesn't respond back. Is there a reason why his phone number isn't blocked? And I'm not so sure about you going out on dates while you're still somewhat in love with your ex.
utterer of lies Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 If you are weak and give in to the temptation you will suffer. But will knowing this help you?
Nexus One Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 You want your ex back, but only if he grows up and stops being infantile. Am I right?
Author pandagirl Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Why are you open to communicating with him? What's there to gain from that? I wouldn't respond. If you respond it'll send you into a needless tizzy and you'll be even more down, particularly if he doesn't respond back. Is there a reason why his phone number isn't blocked? And I'm not so sure about you going out on dates while you're still somewhat in love with your ex. He's not blocked (although, i did erase him number from my phone). I don't hate him, and there was no reason to block him because we've been in such low contact. I've always been open to resuming contact with him down the line, but the way he's been doing it is immature, IME. How do you stop loving someone? I don't think you do, but it changes over time, and I have to be proactive to start to move on. If dating doesn't go well, then I'll stop. You want your ex back, but only if he grows up and stops being infantile. Am I right? In theory, yes. I'd like him to grow some balls and grow up.
spackle Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 you either need to accept him as he is OR has he changed how you would like? Otherwise why go back?
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