kcombs14 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Help! Im in a situation and I dont know what to do! Im 20 years old and my current girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years! We started off when we were really young but have really grown to love each other. In the last year we have started talking about getting married and everything, but just in the last week I met this attractive girl who is interested in me. From just meeting her and talking for a few minutes I have developed a bad crush. I feel horrible for it because my current girlfriend would do anything for me and has no idea i have these feelings for someone else. However, I see this new girl 2 or 3 times a week at college and I cant seem to get her off my mind. I really dont know what to do and my stomach is in a constant knot. I have someone who loves and cares about me soo much but yet I feel like im falling for another person I have just met and dont really even know. Someone give me some advice please!! I dont know if I should just do my best to forget this new girl and continue on in my current relationship or go through the horrible process of breaking my girlfriends heart for someone I barely know!
Nexus One Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Help! Im in a situation and I dont know what to do! Im 20 years old and my current girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years! We started off when we were really young but have really grown to love each other. In the last year we have started talking about getting married and everything, but just in the last week I met this attractive girl who is interested in me. From just meeting her and talking for a few minutes I have developed a bad crush. I feel horrible for it because my current girlfriend would do anything for me and has no idea i have these feelings for someone else. However, I see this new girl 2 or 3 times a week at college and I cant seem to get her off my mind. I really dont know what to do and my stomach is in a constant knot. I have someone who loves and cares about me soo much but yet I feel like im falling for another person I have just met and dont really even know. Someone give me some advice please!! I dont know if I should just do my best to forget this new girl and continue on in my current relationship or go through the horrible process of breaking my girlfriends heart for someone I barely know! First of all you have to find out if it's just an infatuation you're having with this new girl. Infatuations are short lived addictions to another person, often from the opposite gender. Infatuations can last for several months after which they tend to slowly fade away. Think about the following. Would it be reasonable to dump your girlfriend of 6 years for an infatuation of which you don't even know if it will ever evolve into something? No it would not be rational, but here's the catch. The moment you get infatuated the "love" chemicals in your body create strong feelings that make you throw your rationality out of the window. And that's the reason you are even considering dumping your girlfriend of 6 years who you intended to marry for someone you barely even know for a week. Those "love chemicals" are strong stuff. Don't lose self control, if you lose that, then you start making mistakes.
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I think the minute you accept this crush and feel less guilty about it, ie this can be a normal part of life it will die down a bit anyway. Enjoy the temporary fantast about someone else, but do make sure you make an extra effort to be kind to your girlfriend and keep up the connection. If it's not gone in 3 months, or you feel yourself getting out of control then your relationship may not be right and this crush is a sign of a deeper need to break free. But I doubt it.
utterer of lies Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Help! Im in a situation and I dont know what to do! Im 20 years old and my current girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years! We started off when we were really young but have really grown to love each other. In the last year we have started talking about getting married and everything, but just in the last week I met this attractive girl who is interested in me. From just meeting her and talking for a few minutes I have developed a bad crush. I feel horrible for it because my current girlfriend would do anything for me and has no idea i have these feelings for someone else. However, I see this new girl 2 or 3 times a week at college and I cant seem to get her off my mind. I really dont know what to do and my stomach is in a constant knot. I have someone who loves and cares about me soo much but yet I feel like im falling for another person I have just met and dont really even know. Someone give me some advice please!! I dont know if I should just do my best to forget this new girl and continue on in my current relationship or go through the horrible process of breaking my girlfriends heart for someone I barely know! Break up. You are twenty and too young to settle. Yes it will be painful, but this won't be the last girl you fall for, and if you marry now you will always feel like you missed out on life ...and / or you will start cheating.
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