Should I do "No Contact" even though talking to him makes me happy?

[chelle21689]

Last week my bf of 5 1/2 years told me that his feelings have changed over the month and half. He was crying saying he wished and tried so hard for it to come back...everyone says he outgrew me from his new busy life. The army and distance was 2 years and I supported him but I guess it gradually caught up to us....He said he felt like he grew apart from me..

 

Well, he said he doesn't want me to disappear from his life and still loves me. He'll call sometimes and I'll text him sometimes and we'll talk about our day, be happy, have laughs. It makes me feel good we are on good terms....even though he may not get back with me.

 

But some days I want to cry. Some days I don't. I'm confused with my feelings. I feel like if I do "No Contact" I could hurt more....

[depplover_1980]

You need to shock him into missing you. As you have been talking it is polite and correct to tell him that for your own future to move forward you won't be able to contact him anymore. Then cut him loose. Only once you're gone can he begin to miss you, otherwise he is still getting emotional support from you while being free to have sex with whoever he wants!! Not bad for him is it? No.

[PegNosePete]

It is possible to remain friends with an ex, but only if you're both over each other. Could you see him with another woman, and be nothing but happy for him? And could he see you with another man and be nothing but happy for you? If so then you can be friends. If not, then you need more time.