Yellowbug Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 So, I posted in another forum about my breakup and the 1st time my ex and I saw each other after NC for 14 months. We both changed jobs, and did not realize that we were working in the same industry. I was in his store, and when we saw each other he turned around and walked away and stayed in the back room. We were probably both shocked. After the initial run-in, I sent an email saying congratulations, hello, and I would be in the store from time to time. That was it. Very professional, nice, and unemotional. Well, we ran into each other again a few days ago at another event. I do NOT know if he read the email because there was no response. He approached me at the event and said, "Hello." I responded back with a, "Hello & congratulations on your new job." We had small talk about business for a few minutes, and then he reached up and removed a small, white thread from my sweater. He said, "Sorry, you had a thread on your shoulder and it was bothering me." He then reached out for a hug and I responded. After that, they had to go into a meeting. My boss and I left, and I proceeded home. I received a text from him after saying, "Are you still here?" I wrote back and said, "No, at home. How was the meeting?" He said, "Good, but it was nice to see and talk to you finally. Have a good day, and see ya around." What does all of this mean? I'm wondering if he still has feelings or was he just being nice? I loved him very much when I broke it off. Oh, I dumped him over a year ago because I hit rock bottom. I was not getting the attention I deserved and was putting so much into the relationship without a return on my investment. I broke it off because I felt it was the right thing to do to get us happy again.
ginastar Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 sounds like he might still be interested in you, but you never know. Would you ever go back out with him. Just curious, did he have another gf since then?
Author Yellowbug Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 sounds like he might still be interested in you, but you never know. Would you ever go back out with him. Just curious, did he have another gf since then? I really don't know if he has dated, or if he currently has a girl . . . The only talking we have done in 14 months is the 5 minute discussion at the event, and the brief texting after. I'm just confused. Yes, I have feelings for him, and would like to be friends at some point, but my break up message to him over a year ago was basically to disappear out of my life. After I got of ther anger, resentment, and sadness I have a little disappointment in myself about how I handled the situation, but I just didn't know what else to do.
ginastar Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 No, I think its good you broke free from him. If your relationship with him was ever to work I think you guys needed this break. You mentioned in another post that he cheated right? if you stayed he wouldnt have respected you. Maybe he learned his lesson?
Author Yellowbug Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 No, I think its good you broke free from him. If your relationship with him was ever to work I think you guys needed this break. You mentioned in another post that he cheated right? if you stayed he wouldnt have respected you. Maybe he learned his lesson? Oh, this is wonderful that you remember my post from a week ago!!! Yes, he did and we tried to work through it, but I just couldn't get over it. We just were not happy, so I hit rock bottom and made the choice for both of us. So, the 2nd run in was better and we spoke. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders and that things would be okay. I guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens from here . . . I know I made the right decision, but it's hard to fight the mind versus the heart. My mind says, "You left for many good reasons." My heart says, "You love this man, and that's it."
ginastar Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 wow i got the chills cause this sounds like a love story. Hmmm you really never know if he learned his lesson or will eventually go back to his old ways. I guess your not sure if he even wants anything with you. I dont think it could hurt to try though, just be careful that he may hurt you again. But if your not with anyone, i dont see why not. plus i love happy endings if this does work out for you.
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