Mixed28 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Well it was my first serious relationship and I was new to this she also did not talk to me about it. She just dumped me did not tell me to tone it down (this may be do to me being a loving person and she thought it would not be fair to ask me to tone it down i dont know). I have not contacted her since the break up which was about about 10 weeks ago and now she has a new boyfriend after 2 months of our breakup. I feel I got screwed and it is so hard not to call her up and tell her I know I was too clingy and what not but doing that especially when she is with someone will push her away. Since the break up I have started water polo and have been lifting wweights and gaining muscle. So physically I have moved on but I still always think about her and hope to get back together in the future despite the fact she has a new boyfriend. Also we are both 19 and attend the same college which is small 3600 students and she has talked to me once but it was small talk and she waves to me. And I would like to date someone new but so many girls are in long distance relationships it sucks. But I am focusing on myself Im hellbent on getting a body of a greek God and I am making progress.
Author Mixed28 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 When she dumped me she said I was a great guy treated her well but didn't see it going further and I did nothing wrong.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 When she dumped me she said I was a great guy treated her well but didn't see it going further and I did nothing wrong. You just learned many lessons the hard way, what you might not know is that women cant deal with their guilt when they dump you. So they will NEVER tell you the real reason they dumped you because they cant deal with the thought of you being hurt because of something they said. They will make plenty of other excuses, but they wont tell you the real reason. Just so you know, and you'll never realize it until you do the dumping. By the time she has to tell you to tone it down, she has lost interest in you. Depending on how hard she wants to work on the relationship, Smothering a woman makes you seem like youre not a challenge. Its a delicate balancing act of letting her take the emotional steps, and judging if her affectionate behavior is genuine. Too much affection is usually a non-recovery turnoff. Most people will not give you a chance to recover from turn off mistakes and let you think everything is alright before jumping ship. You always have to be on guard and watch her behavior compared to your actions so that you can see this type of thing coming. Being blind in love is never a way to live. Just let the next girl you date be too lovey dovey before youre moderately affectionate. If you dont make yourself a challenge, she will lose interest immediately. let her initiate most contact with you. Its not a game, its balance.
Author Mixed28 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 That sucks I doubt I can shake the view she has of me off now despite the fact that I have maintained no contact since the breakup. It was my first serious relationship so I was bound to screw up. I have to see her for the next 3 and a half years. I will NOT wear my heart on my sleeve next time I will Turn it way way way down in the affection department.
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