kwist Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 My boyfriend of three years and I just broke up, and he was the first person I ever made out with, touched, even really flirted with. During our relationship there was someone I found really attractive, and after the relationship ended with my boyfriend we started talking and going to parties and hooking up. He's a lot of fun and I really enjoy being around him. I'm not going to date for a really long time and he has been upfront and said he's not interested in a relationship, but something he mentioned made me wonder. He spoke about a girl he was really interested in dating at his school, but said he was no longer going to ask her out because she had hooked up with one of his fraternity brothers. When I asked why that mattered, he made it seem like girls that hook up aren't dating material. Now, like I said, I'm not interested in dating and I don't even think we'd be a good match, but I still consider myself a classy person and not slutty or trashy by any means. We've already gone pretty far but we haven't had sex, although he mentioned he wanted to. I honestly don't want to be the type of girl that has sex so easily, and so I'm thinking of telling him upfront that although it might happen eventually it's not something that's going down soon. To be honest we have gone further than I ever expected myself to do with someone that I'm not in a relationship with, but I think it's because i've been infatuated with him for a long time (to the point where I completely started ignoring him while in a relationship with my ex because I knew there was a temptation). For people with high dating standards, are they just not interested in any girl that would have sex or hook up like that while out of a relationship? I guess the best question to ask is how do you hook up but still stay classy?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I guess the best question to ask is how do you hook up but still stay classy? The eternal question indeed. When you figure it out, start a thread here on LS and many will gain from your new understanding. In all fairness, "classy" is more of a self-perceived thing than anything else.
creighton0123 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Agree with Sincere. You can either decide that you want to reserve yourself until you meet someone you want both a physical and romantic relationship with... or you can have sex. Most of the time, sex is something special. Sometimes, though, it is just sex. Do you want to be involved with someone/people who think less of a person because they have had... say... five sex partners instead of 2 or 3? You should be less concerned about having fun, random, sex and more concerned with the fact that this guy is talking about and openly sharing information about all of his sex partners with his frat buddies. Chances are that even though you haven't had sex with him, there may be some people who think you have.
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