bslchump Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Every interaction i've had with my ex lately has left me in a very bad state. I'm always livid and can never return to whatever good mood I was in before. She's become incredibly snotty and rude to me. She doesn't even look at me when I talk to her, and she's got a very superior air about her. Now, I can easily control any violent thoughts, but MAN! Nothing makes me feel more like snapping then when she treats me like dog crap. I'm thinking about going to her and saying something very seriously along the lines of "If you cannot interact with me like an adult, then please don't interact with me period." What do you think? Grr I cannot wait until I can go NC. She makes me feel horrible about being me.
carhill Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I found tractor time, especially with the bucket loader, digging holes, to be a great processor of more violent thoughts. Ascribe whatever meanings appropriate Ultimately, it was learning to accept such dynamics, an outgrowth of the MC process, which allowed a more balanced perspective. There's a time and a place for anger; pick those times and places carefully. 'I find your behavior towards me to be unacceptable'. Then, walk away.
Author bslchump Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Ugh, I don't even know why I care anymore. She's lazy and selfish and never takes responsibility for her actions. I've come to learn in the past few weeks that even if she did a 180 and said "GEEZ, I really messed up. I realize I love you and want to be with you" I would NEVER get back together with her. I feel a strong physical attraction to her, but to be perfectly honest, her personality disgusts me now. I loathe liars and cheaters.
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