mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Last night I went to this local lounge that's near a few colleges. I had been there before to watch sporting events, but never on a Saturday night, when all the college kids come out to drink and dance. The music really wasn't to my liking for the most part, but there was a decent-sized crowd there and plenty of attractive people, so I decided to hang out to see what happened. There was this one girl who I thought was really fine out on the dance floor. I was by the dance floor, behind a short wall protecting me and my friend's coat while he went to get drinks (no coat check. In this day and age, how do you operate a lounge without a coat check? but I digress). For a few minutes, it seemed like she was trying to get my attention. I wasn't totally sure at first because she'd make eye contact real quick then go back to what she was doing. When she started shaking her behind a few inches away from me, I started to get the hint, then I decided to walk around the wall to join her on the dance floor. Once I got to where she was, some dude went up to her, grabbed her, then started making out with her.... Ok.. fine, no biggie, she was just teasing/flirting with me. Later on in the night another cute girl (not as hot as the first, but still attractive) made it obvious she wanted my attention. She was smiling and winking at me and everything. So I smiled, finished my drink, then as I was about to go dance with her, some dude CAME OUT OF NOWHERE and started grinding her. I'm not even sure that she even looked at him before she let him get behind her and start dry humping her. Whooaaaa K. So I looked around again, there was another really cute girl, but she seemed shy or something. She was really attractive, and it really seemed like she wanted attention, but she couldn't stand still! She kept moving around the place, almost nervously. While this is happening, I noticed that girl 1 was out and about again.. in fact, I don't think I ever saw her and the guy she was making out with together again for the rest of the night. I'm 30. I'm not going to knock these people because they are a bit younger and they were just doing their thing. When I was that age I was out partying like crazy myself, but I never really whored myself out like that. I mean.. is it really that easy to hook up with random attractive people? Do these people have a slice of pride?? I know there was a lot of drinking going on, but personally, when I drink, I just loosen up a bit. I don't go around dry humping total strangers. Anyways, I guess the point I am trying to make is that I feel I have outgrown this nonsense. I like a challenge when pursuing a woman. Does that make me sound like an old man? Part of me feels like I am wasting my prime years (I was a late bloomer, but that's a whole other story) looking past easy hookups.
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Eh, I went out to the bars with a few of my friends last night, and I have to agree with everything you said...it's been a while since I've gone out and been so annoyed...I ended up just leaving and going home early...maybe it was just a bad night for me...I have to admit I was quite the Debbie Downer the whole time...
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 OP is just mad cuz he went home alone.
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 OP is just mad cuz he went home alone. Hahah, fair enough. There was one new guy in our group (all Marines... ) who was so desperate to get laid...that's all he'd talk about...and it got annoying really fast...
SmileFace Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 :lmao::lmao::lmao: lol OP is just mad cuz he went home alone.
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Eh, I went out to the bars with a few of my friends last night, and I have to agree with everything you said...it's been a while since I've gone out and been so annoyed...I ended up just leaving and going home early...maybe it was just a bad night for me...I have to admit I was quite the Debbie Downer the whole time... Yea, if you're not in the right mood then you won't have a very good time. I've had nights like that. However, last night I was in a decent mood. I smiled. I made myself look approachable. I was nice and clean and smelled nice.. haha I was just amazed at how people whore themselves out like that. I mean, really.. I think girl 2 just waved her tail in the air hoping for someone.. ANYONE to grab it. It was about to be me but then someone else got there first.
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 :lmao::lmao::lmao: lol The first step to recovery is admitting the problem.
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Hahah, fair enough. There was one new guy in our group (all Marines... ) who was so desperate to get laid...that's all he'd talk about...and it got annoying really fast... Yea that can be really annoying. To be honest, I wasn't exactly trying to get laid. Like I said, I like a good challenge. I would have liked a phone number or two, but oh well.
tigressA Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I think it's really gross how people advertise their bodies as free for the taking at such establishments. One of the last times I was at a club I was with my friends, we were all dancing together, and some guy I had been talking to at the bar just comes up and starts grinding me from behind. I was infuriated and he acted like he did absolutely nothing wrong, like the fact I had talked to him for a little while and was out there dancing with my friends just gave him the right to start dry-humping me. He was lucky I didn't hit him. If you want a challenge OP, I think you already know where NOT to look.
SmileFace Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I never really been to a bar ,so this seems a odd to me. Don't get me wrong I party weekly with my friends - but these parties are more based around dancing. You come in with your girls - you grind up on some guy or two - then you go home with your girls. It is so weird ,some of the things I have seen at college parties - girls kissing random guys - going home with a random guy at night. It all makes me feel rather green. My friends will never allow me to go home with some random guy. I think it is a culture thing.. wow
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 My mom (a hilarious and sweet woman, I am so lucky she is my mother) grew up near a farm in Venezuela. She grew up around hens and roosters. She always told me that a lot of women are like hens. That as soon as they hear a rooster making noise, they will walk over to him, bend over, get what they want, and walk away. Then the rooster makes noise again, another hen walks over, and the cycle repeats. When I first heard that I was like wha????? No..... She is so right it's kinda scary!!
paleblue Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 i find those situations highly annoying. than again i am 38. so i am old now. but still i dont get how the hell you are supposed to make sense of situations like this.
tigressA Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 My mom (a hilarious and sweet woman, I am so lucky she is my mother) grew up near a farm in Venezuela. She grew up around hens and roosters. She always told me that a lot of women are like hens. That as soon as they hear a rooster making noise, they will walk over to him, bend over, get what they want, and walk away. Then the rooster makes noise again, another hen walks over, and the cycle repeats. When I first heard that I was like wha????? No..... She is so right it's kinda scary!! :lmao: Oh man, I'm going to steal this. Your mom sounds awesome.
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I think it's really gross how people advertise their bodies as free for the taking at such establishments. One of the last times I was at a club I was with my friends, we were all dancing together, and some guy I had been talking to at the bar just comes up and starts grinding me from behind. I was infuriated and he acted like he did absolutely nothing wrong, like the fact I had talked to him for a little while and was out there dancing with my friends just gave him the right to start dry-humping me. He was lucky I didn't hit him. One of the guys in my group did just that all night long...and when a girl would shove him away, he'd get visibly butthurt and insist we go to a new place because that one "sucked"... So I agree with you, TA, bars and the such aren't necessarily the best places to find what you're looking for...and I've noticed that whenever going out with the guys becomes focused on women instead of being about the guys out having fun, the night turns into a ****show that is no fun at all...but maybe it's just me...
xpaperxcutx Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Geez, cut the girls slack for trying to be flirtatious... and wanting to dance sexually. The only thing you needed to have to worry about was getting to them first. I mean if you're going to mess around with easy 20 something year olds you better have the mentality for it.
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 I think it's really gross how people advertise their bodies as free for the taking at such establishments. One of the last times I was at a club I was with my friends, we were all dancing together, and some guy I had been talking to at the bar just comes up and starts grinding me from behind. I was infuriated and he acted like he did absolutely nothing wrong, like the fact I had talked to him for a little while and was out there dancing with my friends just gave him the right to start dry-humping me. He was lucky I didn't hit him. If you want a challenge OP, I think you already know where NOT to look. Yea I hear ya. I already knew what I was getting into when I got there. I know I really should be looking elsewhere for what I want. I have considered taking dance lessons, doing community service, joining a new gym (I don't like the one I go to anymore), etc., but I cannot commit to doing anything like that right now. I am doing some aggressive job hunting, and I am not sure what my work schedule will look like or if I will be even living in this area once I get the job I want. That is why I can't commit to any of those activities, I don't know what is going to happen. In the meantime, I have put up a profile on OKCupid and I go out to lounges randomly to see who is out there.
tigressA Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 One of the guys in my group did just that all night long...and when a girl would shove him away, he'd get visibly butthurt and insist we go to a new place because that one "sucked"... So I agree with you, TA, bars and the such aren't necessarily the best places to find what you're looking for...and I've noticed that whenever going out with the guys becomes focused on women instead of being about the guys out having fun, the night turns into a ****show that is no fun at all...but maybe it's just me... It's like that for me too, but obviously in the reverse. The few times I would be out with my friends and it was strictly about us having fun, I had a great time. Other times when a friend or two was trying to find someone to take home it wasn't fun at all.
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 :lmao: Oh man, I'm going to steal this. Your mom sounds awesome. Yea.. in my 30 years of life, she never ceases to amaze me with the sayings she has. I mean, she is constantly telling me new ones. She either has an insane memory for that kind of stuff, or she is very creative. Probably both. One time I was having trouble at work because people were taking advantage of me. She says "well son, you know that the more you bend over, the more your butthole shows" I was like whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?????
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Geez, cut the girls slack for trying to be flirtatious... and wanting to dance sexually. The only thing you needed to have to worry about was getting to them first. I mean if you're going to mess around with easy 20 something year olds you better have the mentality for it. I'm just surprised at the apparent lack of standards women have at that age. It's one thing to try to catch the attention of a hot guy and want to dance with him.. it's another to wave your tail and serve the first dude that comes along.
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I'm just surprised at the apparent lack of standards women have at that age. It's one thing to try to catch the attention of a hot guy and want to dance with him.. it's another to wave your tail and serve the first dude that comes along. Insecurity + Alcohol...?
Author mo mo Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Insecurity + Alcohol...? Pretty much. I just want a confident woman that does not play games. All that other stuff I look for in a woman will fall into place if she has those 2 major things.
tigressA Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Insecurity + Alcohol...? Yeah, that's it right there. Even my friends, when they were looking for someone to hook up with, wouldn't just latch on to whoever came sniffing around. They actually would've liked to talk for awhile instead of just grinding on each other fully clothed until the time to grind on each other without clothes arrived, but as I would keep telling them, "No one really comes to these places just to talk..." We all had (still have) standards, but I was a bit smarter in knowing where and when to reasonably apply them. I never went to bars or clubs in hopes of meeting someone.
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Speaking of bar room stories, I have one from last weekend that still makes me smile...I was out with some friends in a very young college-age part of DC...I was standing there talking with two of my friends (who are pretty good looking dudes, no homo) at a table, and a group of three girls walks up to us and introduces themselves...we chat them up for a while, and then one of the girls finishes her drink, looks at my friend, and says "oh, it looks like I'm empty..." My friend asks her what she was drinking, she responds, and then he says "so does that always work for you...?" She was not pleased and the whole group left... I could not have been more proud of him...it just warms my f'in heart...
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I never went to bars or clubs in hopes of meeting someone. I came to really enjoy the bar/club scene a lot more when I figured this out...
paleblue Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 he says "so does that always work for you...?" She was not pleased and the whole group left... ahhahahaha... kudos to your friend.
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