Author OceanGirl Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Agh, I shouldn't have started this thread. I didn't mean to offend anyone. Of course there are men that PREFER small boobs.
anne1707 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 OG As a woman with small boobs I was not offended. I would actually say that your post was more offensive in its representation of men.
lino Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 And straight away a woman (me!) came in and said that no man had made any criticism about boob size Well done! I wish it happened more often.
Woggle Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Nobody is blaming and shaming blokes on this thread, quite the contrary in fact. The title is "Men tend to see women's bodies as better than they really are" Where is the criticism in that? Nobody in this thread is but in society men get blamed constantly for women's body issues when in many cases women are much harder on each other. The fashion industry promotes the super thin trend and it is run by women and gay men.
Woggle Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Woggle, thats manipulating the topic somewhat. It is but I think that is what the poster meant.
lino Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Maybe so but it's the truth. Blokes are constantly blamed for women who get all sorts of disorders & anxieties because of how the fashion industry affects them. I couldn't give a f#ck about the female fashion industry & I've never picked up a womans fashion mag. I shouldn't be made to feel guilty if I like certain attributes of a womans body.
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Maybe so but it's the truth. Blokes are constantly blamed for women who get all sorts of disorders & anxieties because of how the fashion industry affects them. I couldn't give a f#ck about the female fashion industry & I've never picked up a womans fashion mag. I shouldn't be made to feel guilty if I like certain attributes of a womans body. So don't feel guilty then! Sheesh, trying to pick a fight or what? I don't care what you find attractive. Whatever floats your boat, go for it, you have my support. I don't give a sh** about the female fashion industry either- I stopped reading mags etc years ago. Hence the lack of anxiety probably.
lino Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 You seem to have a healthy attitude and are the minority. I'm not not talking about those like you. I'm talking about how the masses react as soon as a girl has body issues. The finger is instantly pointed at what they think guys want. It's seriously got to stop. I don't want to pick a fight, I'm pointing out what happens in these situations.
zengirl Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Men just don't analyze your naked body flaws under the microscope This is the darn truth. I think men look at the good things in women and don't really think about the bad (physically). They think more about what they're attracted to. Women concentrate to much on fixing every little flaw, when it should be about playing up your best qualities, physically. That's my thought. Agh, I shouldn't have started this thread. I didn't mean to offend anyone. Of course there are men that PREFER small boobs. I didn't think you meant to offend small-boobs folks. I'm small boob-ed and not worried about it.
Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 So your friend, who works out and has a hot body in very good physical condition, feels attracted to women that do not have a fit body? I cannot see a guy that takes very good care of his own body and diet, being attracted to a slob who has no pride in her body, eats badly, and is average weight but does NO exercise. On the other hand, it is believable than your hot friend would be attracted to women with pretty faces and had a normal body size; that still exercised and took care of themselves of course. This. Women don't seem to understand that a lot of men simply don't care if you aren't super skinny or jacked or whatever "ideal" you have in your mind, and some are even turned off by it. I feel that women feel that pressure because they are competing with other women. I was talking with my fellow GTL'er at the bar last night and he agreed with me that he didn't want a woman who was threatened or pressured into having a "perfect" body just because he has a good physique. In fact, most of the women he dated, and the ones he was the happiest with, didn't have that ideal physique. They were happy with what they had. So OG, I don't think it's a matter men necessarily see women's bodies as "better" than they really are...we appreciate whatever you've got...and if it's a body that turns us on, thent here's no purpose in nitpicking flaws...because we don't see them as "flaws"...
Chocolat Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 The term skinny can be very hurtful as well in certain contexts. There are many people who feel the same including myself. It should be taken into consideration that not everyone attaches positive connotations to being called skinny. I don't think anyone should comment on a person's size unless they've invited it openly. "Skinny" is an insult, just as "fat" is. I Googled it, and the first definition that popped up was scraggy: being very thin; "a child with skinny freckled legs"; "a long scrawny neck". Also: One who is skinny, A skinny person; Having little flesh and fat; slim; slender; narrow; thin, generally beyond what looks beautiful As to the OP, I think men are generally pretty happy to be in the same room with a naked woman and are not dissecting her features when this happens.
Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 OCEANGIRL is right, of course. Your mum must have something entertaining to say that provides you with something you enjoy hearing about, otherwise, I do not see why you bother even talking to her ( if she has no redeeming attributes to counter her stupid attitude). And as every one on here who knows my threads and post knows by now, I am far slimmer than most women, albeit slim ina healthy and not skinny way; NOT A LOT OF GUYS LIKE MY BODY. I do Pilates daily and am about 115 lbs and 5 5 ishand have a very inproportion body - yet that does not necessarily get guys attention AT ALL. And the one guy who has felt my body was very appreciative of it, and would not have noticed the aspects to it that I deplore.
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Well, I can't really help you with your problem and what you find annoying. I think most people's threads are about "ME ME ME", for that matter, I chime in any thread I feel like whether or not men talk about bodies or not.If you're actually counting how many times people post on a particular thread, you need a better hobby:) I'm sure I'm not the only one that posted more than once, I just happened to have responded to a few people back to back. Anyway, just to clarify myself, I am not "insecure" about being called skinny. What I am saying is that it is rude to call someone skinny just as it is to call someone fat. I don't go around letting people know about their particular size/shape, it's just plain rude, no matter what your world views maybe. Fair enough, Feel positive about how you look Although the fact that you basically chimed in this thread with only your own very slanted "I am hot, so guys most think I am beyond hot/ woe is me, I am insecure about being called "skinny" and want to talk about me me me me" Is rather annoying. Also, your username, is confident at best, self indulged at least. Furthermore, would you really have chimed in at all on this topic if men where not expressing so much appreciation for womans bodies... which apparently yours is God's gift to men. Last but not least, you seem intelligent enough to get away with this which in and of itself is a rather glib way to hi jack attention/ a thread with copious amounts of posts whilst seemingly being so innocent and even minded. Glad we had this talk. Edit: This is rather assumptive, but I am going to put a 99% certainty on this, you use men 50 times more than they use you.
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 "Skinny" is an insult, just as "fat" is. I Googled it, and the first definition that popped up was scraggy: being very thin; "a child with skinny freckled legs"; "a long scrawny neck". Also: One who is skinny, A skinny person; Having little flesh and fat; slim; slender; narrow; thin, generally beyond what looks beautiful As to the OP, I think men are generally pretty happy to be in the same room with a naked woman and are not dissecting her features when this happens. Ha I know, I have worldly views!
paleblue Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 What I am saying is that it is rude to call someone skinny just as it is to call someone fat. I don't go around letting people know about their particular size/shape, it's just plain rude, no matter what your world views maybe. In a way its like being picked on about your appearance. or like when people feel the need to say something about the kind of mood you might be in. Sometimes I think thanks! glad i asked! not.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I dont believe for one second that men dont notice the flaws that women notice. I notice everything on a womans body. Im just smart enough to make sure I dont say anything because some women love to hate themselves for some reason. Believe it women, guys notice, we cant say anything, otherwise we'd never get any. What women might not understand is that guys dont make as big a deal about most of these flaws as women do. And anyone who is fishing for compliments over these flaws is just chipping away at the attraction. Kind of like excess compliments. And a woman with A cups can be just as sexy as a woman with c cups. Its just as fun to play with A cups, especially if they are sensitive.
january2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 What women might not understand is that guys dont make as big a deal about most of these flaws as women do. In my experience, it depends on the guy.
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 So your friend, who works out and has a hot body in very good physical condition, feels attracted to women that do not have a fit body? I cannot see a guy that takes very good care of his own body and diet, being attracted to a slob who has no pride in her body, eats badly, and is average weight but does NO exercise. Did you just insult Oceangirl? And as every one on here who knows my threads and post knows by now, I am far slimmer than most women, albeit slim ina healthy and not skinny way; NOT A LOT OF GUYS LIKE MY BODY. I do Pilates daily and am about 115 lbs and 5 5 ishand have a very inproportion body - yet that does not necessarily get guys attention AT ALL. . Perhaps you should read the OP and try and think about why that is? Seeing as we are thread crossing.
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 So your friend, who works out and has a hot body in very good physical condition, feels attracted to women that do not have a fit body? I cannot see a guy that takes very good care of his own body and diet, being attracted to a slob who has no pride in her body, eats badly, and is average weight but does NO exercise. Did you even read what he wrote? He said his fit friend dates women who don't necessarily have the "ideal" (i.e., perfect) figure. He didn't say these women are lazy, crap eating slobs who take no pride in their body! My lord!
Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 guys, you have the wrong idea; I meant: Hokies FRIEND takes GOOD care of his body, so when he said they his friend still goes for "normal" looking womenm in spite of the fact he takes good care of his body. To me, if a guy works out most days of the week, and is in very good physical shape, they would not want anm average women; they would want a women who is fit at least.
USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 To me, if a guy works out most days of the week, and is in very good physical shape, they would not want anm average women; they would want a women who is fit at least. This is not true. For the quality guys, sh*t like this doesn't matter.
alethean Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 This is not true. For the quality guys, sh*t like this doesn't matter. *Claps hands.*
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