freeoralone7 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Its been 2 weeks now of NC. We were long distance. She started dating someone as soon as i left from a visit. We dated for 6 months. Is 6 months long enough for her to have really been in love? And will she ever contact me? Every day i check my computer to see if maybe she contacted me to see how i am or something. I just want to hear from her to know that she cares. I hate falling in love and feeling like it was all a waist. Do people usually come around and contact you after a break up or should i expect that she is happy with her new bf and done with me like she said?
Mavisse Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Do people usually come around and contact you after a break up or should i expect that she is happy with her new bf and done with me like she said? In my experience--which is sadly pretty extensive! LOL--people usually do call...though it won't necessarily mean she wants to get back together. If you have time, please check out the post I made...I'm like you, only a few months down the road and no new people involved.
Mavisse Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I should add--six months is definitely enough time to fall in love. I've fallen pretty hard in much less time!
z00m25 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 quit thinking and waiting around for it, that will just drive you insane lol. im sure you will get a call eventually tho, just got my first call 3 weeks later. didnt answer.
trillium Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Sadly have to agree with Mavisse...I have a lot of experience with break-ups as well. They usually do call at some point. While your heart is pounding and wondering what they might want, they just want to catch-up and say hello. I still feel the etiquette should be that the dumper waits until the dumpee reaches out. Either way, it won't help you to wait for that call. But I understand that's easier said than done.
Author freeoralone7 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Im not sitting around waiting for it. I think about it like once a day or so (it being her and maybe a call or if ill ever hear from her again). Im actually moving on quiet nicely. Im not depressed and I don't think about her that much anymore. I havent cried since we broke up. Its been 2.5 weeks. Im still wonder if ill ever hear from her again. I wonder what she is thinking, and if her new relationship is going well etc.
evil hank Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 All that matters is shes not thinking of you. And as hard as it sounds you prob should do the same.
Author freeoralone7 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 it does hurt when you say she isnt thinknig of me. Do people just not think of someone they broke up with if they start seeing someone else right away (days after). As for the other people who said she will probably call. The last thing she said to me was that she wanted me to lose her number and not talk to her again. And i said I wish i had never met her (i know i know). Pretty harsh words were exchanged on that day.
evil hank Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Alot of time in a heighten emotion people say stuff they dont mean or regret later. The way i see it is, act as if she never will call you again, and this will help you move foward, and if she does well then its a bonus. If u get lost in hope you will never heal, plus you wanna fix yourself before she calls, this way you can make a rational choice to or not pick up the phone.
Chi townD Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 You might get a phone call but more than likely, you'll get an e-mail sooner or later. A lot of times, they start feeling guilty. A lot of women don't like the fact that there's a person out in the world that doesn't think that they are a nice person. So, she might put out a feeler to see how you are. This is not an invitation to get back together, this is a selfish attempt to ease their own guilt, if you respond and sound nice and happy, they start not to feel bad about what they did to you. DO NOT RESPOND!!! IGNORE HER!!! Don't give her the satisfaction.
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