It's not easy playing hard to get when there is no other girl in the picture-lol

[PhillyDude]

I met this girl last saturday and we were both attracted to each other and had two phone conversations. The first one was nice and the second was short because she was tired. I'm trying not to be as available and not text as much or call but when there is no other girl on her level physically, it becomes very hard.

 

I acually want to talk to her now but I'm trying to learn from my previous experience a month ago when I would call and text everyday. Oh I hate dating so much

[daphne]

Why do you need to play hard to get? Is she not as responsive or was it just because she was tired once? If it was the latter you might be reading more into it than there is. Otherwise, carry on. Keep hunting.

[PhillyDude]

Why do you need to play hard to get? Is she not as responsive or was it just because she was tired once? If it was the latter you might be reading more into it than there is. Otherwise, carry on. Keep hunting.

 

 

Because for some ODD reason women are more attracted to you when you are not easy to get in touch with

[phineas]

Because for some ODD reason women are more attracted to you when you are not easy to get in touch with

 

Yep!

Even more ODD is women do this to men all the time on purpose but it doesn't compute to them when men do it to them in return.

[zengirl]

I met this girl last saturday and we were both attracted to each other and had two phone conversations. The first one was nice and the second was short because she was tired. I'm trying not to be as available and not text as much or call but when there is no other girl on her level physically, it becomes very hard.

 

I acually want to talk to her now but I'm trying to learn from my previous experience a month ago when I would call and text everyday. Oh I hate dating so much

 

Being hard to get is lame. That doesn't mean to smother new people, but don't be actively withholding. If you are someone who needs some help to chill out, then find that help within rather than outside. The good parts of hard to get --- the having a partner who can stand on their own two feet as an individual who doesn't NEED you and smother you off the bat stuff --- comes from having self-respect and a life that keeps you busy/you love already. Ability to make room for someone when you meet someone great? Yes. But not with a gaping hole in it, begging to be filled.

[PhillyDude]

Being hard to get is lame. That doesn't mean to smother new people, but don't be actively withholding. If you are someone who needs some help to chill out, then find that help within rather than outside. The good parts of hard to get --- the having a partner who can stand on their own two feet as an individual who doesn't NEED you and smother you off the bat stuff --- comes from having self-respect and a life that keeps you busy/you love already. Ability to make room for someone when you meet someone great? Yes. But not with a gaping hole in it, begging to be filled.

 

 

Well I text her yesterday..ONCE and I'm going to call tonight especially after seeing that she deleted heronline dating profile.

 

I don't know if that means some guy is back in her life or she is that impressed with me so far