sothis Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I've posted here on and off for a few weeks about a girl I've been seeing for a about 3 months...here's a brief background: the whole thing started a little slow and built up nicely to where we were really hitting it off. 3 weeks ago she went into hiding to deal with some life things she had going on. nothing more than normal things we all encounter but for her they were all coming to a head at the same time. we were in minimal contact during that time... earlier this week she called me and told me she was laid off from her job(somewhat expected) she then became a little emotional and explained to me she's not in a place to put the work into a relationship right now, and it wouldn't be fair to both of us because it might be fun now but it was certain to end badly. she went on to say she thinks I'm a great guy and she really has fun with me. she said she hoped it was possible for us to be in touch and still hang out but the relationship just wasn't right at this time. the conversation really made me feel like the door is still open. since that talk we have hung out a few times and had an amazing time on both occasions (one of them even being her going with me to a large family dinner, all of whom she was meeting for the first time.) she has really opened up to me during these past two hang outs and i get a very cool vibe from her, despite no romantic contact. considering the fact we were only just beginning to see each other and she still displayed the character and felt compelled to explain without me asking where she was at suggests to me she really does have genuine interest in me. am i being an idiot thinking the way i am, or does it seem like there really is a chance for something really cool between us when the time is right?
Mavisse Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 This is a really tough call...I can totally see how you would find a window of hope. That said, I just know that if I was falling in love, I wouldn't let something like the unexpected loss of a job--or any other regular old life drama--stand in the way. I'm afraid she doesn't want a relationship with you, and she is sincere when she says she only wants to be friends. For your sanity, because you seem to really care, I would stop hanging out and looking for signs that she's changing her mind. I bet you'll meet someone who is into you in no time!
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