whenitsmyturn Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Hi I am new here...but I have to share... my boyfriend broke up with me like three weeks ago thru a text, I am still very upset because we had agreed that if we ever broke up we would have the curtsy to each other to do it in person...and he broke it then the reason he gives me is that he has mixed emotions and it just wouldn't end up in a positive outcome, so I told him ok, but please to delete all my info I haven't had any NC with him since then....but what I don't understand why do I always find myself thinking of him and wishing he was back in my life....I know he did me wrong, I had a lot of red flags and I just ignored them, I am writing because I just needed to get it off my chest...
depplover_1980 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 You had a bond with him and then he didn't have the guts to tell you to your face, but to be honest there's no nice way to be dumped. Also you feel rejected and hurt, like you're not good enough. Just read all the other stories and apply the advice to you. Life goes on and you'll be happy again. Promise. x
crimsonskies Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. I am in the same position as you, although he did it to my face, except I had to ask if he was breaking up with me as he couldn't bring himself to say it. Coward. What you need to do and this is what I have been doing, is that you need to go out and socialise, keep busy, do things that make you happy. Maybe things became stagnant and you both changed. Go back to how you were when you first got together. If you have mutual friends, make sure you are 'happy' in front of them. Do not talk to them about him, as this will get back to him and drive him away (that is if you want to get back with him) Go shopping, buy a few items to update you're wardrobe. Maybe change you're hairstyle a little. Flirt with other people even if you may not want to, it will give your self esteem a boost. Take up a hobbie, something that you have wanted to try for a long time but just never got around to doing it. If you both have facebook, don't put up negative statuses, put up happy inspirational ones, this will help you feel good. Keep strong.
Kamila Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 A break-up feels like your world is crashing down. You feel extremely hurt, because your lover broke the intimate relationship you once shared. He decided he was better off without you. He made that choice at that time. But it doesn't mean that he doesn't still love you or harbour deep feelings for you. Those deep feelings he has can still play sick games with your mind if you do no contact. So keep up no contact and move on with your life. You'll feel down at times, but that's okay. You'll need time to grieve. And only time will you make forget. Take care.
fiat500 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Hi I am new here...but I have to share... my boyfriend broke up with me like three weeks ago thru a text, I am still very upset because we had agreed that if we ever broke up we would have the curtsy to each other to do it in person...and he broke it then the reason he gives me is that he has mixed emotions and it just wouldn't end up in a positive outcome, so I told him ok, but please to delete all my info I haven't had any NC with him since then....but what I don't understand why do I always find myself thinking of him and wishing he was back in my life....I know he did me wrong, I had a lot of red flags and I just ignored them, I am writing because I just needed to get it off my chest... i'm so sorry, whenitsmyturn, my ex did the same thing to me. is he in college?
2010_Sorry Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 It's better to figure out how insensitive he is now... than years from now, when you have invested your time and effort into someone that you THOUGHT he was. You are wishing him back into your life right now because he became a part of you. You enjoyed his company and felt whole when you were together. Losing that is extremely difficult after a break up, but you will become whole again without him. Just be patient with yourself, understand that you will miss him some times.... and others you will absolutely hate him. One of these days, you will look back and realize that you are better than you were before and wish only good things for him. I know it seems like that will never happen, but it does....
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