9Lives Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 (edited) We have been officially broken up since August 2010. Then had a ugly fight in October cause I was hurt and he was texting me to see how I'm doing. It just pissed me off. Anyway, we had it out and said that we would never contact each other again. My ex was already seeing someone and has a big ego so I believed him. The holidays came and went. It was the first time in 5 years we didn't have anything to do with each other on the holidays. I had so much going on that it wasn't so bad. I was thinking about him but I didn't want to get my feelings hurt so I stayed in my world. January rolls around and I get this email saying my email is spaming him sex advertisements. I told him to ignore them cause its not me doing it which he already KNEW. I think he just wanted to say something to me. Really he could have blocked my email address long time ago. So a couple days later he email me happy bday which surprised the hell out of me. I didn't get the email until 3 days later. I responded with a simple thanks ex and that was it. It made me smile knowing that he didn't forget. I hope to hear from him again. I still luv him but I'm not going to reach out. It will have to be his move. Im living my life. But I still think about him and miss him. Any. Thought? Edited January 29, 2011 by 9Lives typing from phone is difficult
ginastar Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 I prob wouldnt have responded because i have noticed the less I respond to him the more he tries to contact me and it feels good when he is trying to contact me and he has a gf that prob wouldnt be happy he is trying to get in touch with his ex, haha. but i wonder if my ex will even text me on my bday .... Im sure it felt good
Author 9Lives Posted January 29, 2011 Author Posted January 29, 2011 Im glad I responded. It was good to let us both know, we are not all mad at each other anymore. I dont think it did any harm. Now I just dont need to stick my nose out there to get it slapped. and I wont
soleharmony1123 Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 I still luv him but I'm not going to reach out. It will have to be his move. Im living my life. But I still think about him and miss him. Any. Thought? There is nothing wrong with thinking about your Ex and it's normal to miss him after the breakup. BUT, you're wise not to have contact, and it's also a good thing to acknowledge that you still love him and then leave that thought alone. It is not helpful to keep reinforcing in your mind that you love someone who has hurt you. NC is the wisest course to take now - if you want to reconcile or just move on, either way. I know you love your Ex and you're hurting right now, but for now it's time to get back to YOU! Wish you the best! -Sole.
Author 9Lives Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 There is nothing wrong with thinking about your Ex and it's normal to miss him after the breakup. BUT, you're wise not to have contact, and it's also a good thing to acknowledge that you still love him and then leave that thought alone. It is not helpful to keep reinforcing in your mind that you love someone who has hurt you. NC is the wisest course to take now - if you want to reconcile or just move on, either way. I know you love your Ex and you're hurting right now, but for now it's time to get back to YOU! Wish you the best! -Sole. I agree wholeheartedly. I know anything else would lead to me having a bad experience and who wants that! Not me. It was just nice to hear from him. He has to be guarded too cause the last time he was just saying hi and checking on me, I bit his head off. So he probably knew to be careful. It worked out good. Im proud of myself for not doing the most like I normally would have done. LS has grew me up. He might be surprised by that. i just know better now. thanks for the encouraging words and letting me know that Im doing the right thing.
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